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Have You Ever Had “That Kind of Day?”

by Deone on October 4, 2012

“Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”
~John Wooden

There are some days; it all seems to flow like milk and honey. Then there are those that would seem to require a little more effort than others do. We’ve each had one. I call mine the “WTF Days.”

This past Tuesday was one of my “WTF Days.” There was nothing that stood out that would cause me to lose my “I’m sexy and I know it, Wiggle Wiggle,” but for some strange reason I couldn’t shake the feeling of something being out of whack.

I tried everything to shake myself out of the funk, but nothing seemed to provide me with enough motivation to shake off the melodrama I knew perfectly well that I alone was responsible for causing.

So I figured I would tune out for a bit and I watched Eddie Murphy’s new movie, “Thousand Words”, and it only seemed to bring up more of what seemed to be my main problem.

What was the Problem you may be wondering… excess thinking about absolutely nothing that revolved around everything.

Have you ever had one of those kind of days?

Sure you have, it’s something that each of us have that we SO wished that we didn’t. It’s when our inner voice get’s a lot louder than we’d like it to get.

I talked a little bit about it a couple of weeks ago, when I mentioned the chatterboxes of our thoughts.

It could literally be about anything in the world. Something that happened fifteen years ago comes back and tries to bring itself up without your permission. Or, it could very well be something that happened as early as a few days before that got those mental wheels to spinning.

Why now? What causes us to rummage through the junk in our heads and how do we ever get the noise to quiet down and cut the chatter down to a bare minimum?

Well, most of the time we did nothing to rummage up the junk, our subconscious is simply doing what we designed it to do. It’s protecting us from ourselves. We can’t really cut the chatter down; the chatter is simply something that comes with the territory of being human. However, we can become conscious minded that they are just thoughts, with no more power than Superman in a room full of Kryptonite.

I’ve been reading a great book that’s given me a better understanding of how this all works, and I would recommend anyone who cares to learn more about it to check it out. It’s called, “The Untethered Soul – The Journey Beyond Yourself” by Michael A. Singer. It’s truly an enlightening journey!

“If you aren’t centered, your consciousness is following whatever catches its attention.”
~Michael A. Singer

In it Michael goes on to talk about what we can do is to begin understanding that not everything that comes to our mind needs to be given the room to take up occupancy in our head.

We realize that they are just thoughts. Playing out the unfinished energies that we didn’t deal with or rid ourselves of when they first took shape.

Make no mistake about it; we have to deal with them, but not in the usual melodramatic way we’ve become accustomed. If not, the chatter will continue to talk about the same things we really don’t care to discuss.

I realized that my thoughts where really about me missing my mother. Sunday was the anniversary of her passing away, but it was Tuesday that I had this blah of a day.

The moment I realized what was causing the melodrama meltdown, I simply allowed the energy to have its way. There was nothing I could do that changed it, it was like a passing car that I had to see as it was, and wait until the next one came along.

The moment I realized what it was, the day was no longer a “WTF DAY,” but a ““I’m sexy and I know it, Wiggle Wiggle Day” again. Those absolutely ROCK!

So remember this the next time you go through a “WTF DAY,” It will pass. It will come and it will go. Let it. Everything will happen, as it should. The quicker you let it, the faster you can get back to the… Wiggle Wiggle Wiggle Wiggle.

 

Can you relate? Does this post resonate with you?

Have you had those days when you just couldn’t seem to shake a feeling or thought? How do you cope? Share any thoughts you might have in the section below. I’d love to hear what you have to say about the topic. Thanks! :)

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Aditya October 4, 2012 at 8:29 am

Yes, I have them very often but luckily I get over them very soon. Everything that made me get depressed comes back to me ‘without my permission’ and sits there eating up my time and energy and when I feel like something’s really wrong.

However when I play my guitar (I really don’t know how) things get back to normal very soon. I mean, sometimes I let the car pass helplessly but when I pick up my guitar and keep strumming, I just feel sexy!

Thanks for sharing!

Aditya

P.S. – “excess thinking about absolutely nothing that revolved around everything. ” Loved this!
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Deone October 4, 2012 at 9:38 am

Hey there Aditya!

I appreciate your willingness to vulnerable about the discussion my friend. I believe that it’s those of us who are willing to show such vulnerabilities that assist others with similar thoughts, who may not be as capable of dealing with them as we are. So for that, thank you kindly sir. :)

A guitar player, huh? I can certainly see why that would make you feel sexy… I think it’s one of those types of instruments that really bring out the confidence in those who ROCK IT! :D I’ve always wanted to learn how to play, and who knows, I may even give it a try one of these days.

But yes, you’re absolutely right… when we find something to replace those ‘passing cars’ with we ultimately are better able to see them as they are, and then move past them. Thank you for sharing your insights on the topic mate! It’s always a pleasure reading you here. :)

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Hajra October 4, 2012 at 1:11 pm

I have had too many of those days! LOL!

Sometimes the feeling is just hard to let go, it is just hard to forget and move on. It is tough but later on you realize that maybe that teaches you a lesson.

It is hard to see the bigger lesson in this, but what other way do we have!

Hope you are doing well!
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Ken October 4, 2012 at 1:28 pm

I can absolutely relate to this post, Deone. Obsessive thoughts are time and energy wasters, but they are hard for me to shake sometimes. And you are right, the more you fight them, the stronger they become.

Stin Hansen has a set of affirmations for obsessive thinking that I listen to a lot. My favorite is this one: “When I feel anxiety about the obsessive thoughts, it is because they are the exact opposite of what I really want and value in my life.”

Yup.

I can also relate to Aditya’s comment about playing the guitar. Nothing like a hour or so of banging on some power chords to work out the emotional kinks. :)
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Deone October 6, 2012 at 10:29 am

You’ve got that right, Ken! They soak up any potential time that we could put into doing something productive.

That’s also a great (and extremely powerful) affirmation. One that’s definitely worth making note of in my writer’s notebook. :) Thanks for sharing it with me and the other readers.

Two guitar players, huh? If that isn’t motivation for me, I don’t know what is! :D Now to tackle the challenge of getting one… with lessons of course. ;)
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sabina October 4, 2012 at 3:45 pm

I had a day like this today actually. I thought the “WTF feeling” went away a few times, but it only came back stronger. By 8pm I decided that I just have to let this day pass and start anew tomorrow.

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Deone October 6, 2012 at 10:31 am

Hey there, Sabina! Welcome, my friend.

Since we discussed this on Twitter, the only thing I’ll add here is that I hope you’re having a more excellent day on today. :)

May you seize it with a vengeance! ;)
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Emelia October 4, 2012 at 10:20 pm

PLENTY of those days. I just remind myself that it’s only temporary blues. I like to think of emotions as these needy entities just looking for a place to land. Once they see an opening, they just descend on you without mercy. They just do what they do and then move on. Glad you got back to the wiggle wiggle.
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Deone October 6, 2012 at 10:33 am

I like your observation here, Emelia! That’s a great way of looking at it, my friend. Thanks for adding a bit more depth to this ongoing discussion! :)

Oh, and yes… the wiggle wiggle is back in effect! ;)
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Kesha Brown October 5, 2012 at 5:12 pm

But of course, D! And I love your tips and that quote by Singer was spot on!

One of the things I do is write. I feel like if I can just start writing down my thoughts, something will eventually fill me in on what’s going on, what’s got my attention, and ultimately which of these thousands of thoughts running through my head is/are the culprit. When I think I’ve narrowed it down, I start a new sheet of paper, and repeat the process to help figure out why.

Note: one reason I use regular ol’ pen and paper is because it causes me to slow down my thoughts so to speak because we think faster than we can write so when I focus on writing, I have to “think” about my thoughts, if that’s makes any sense! :-)
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Deone October 6, 2012 at 10:48 am

Hey Kesha,

Great reading you here, my friend! :)

He has so many wonderful tips about the this fascinating “journey beyond ourselves.” The book has given me a totally new outlook, approach, and meaning to rethinking how I will move forward from here on. It was so incredibly powerful that I may just start reading it again once I’ve finished. Just to be sure I didn’t overlook something that would render me with more clarity.

I totally understand what you mean about writing being the thing that gives you liberation from such thoughts. I can truly relate to everything you’ve shared here! Writing has been the source of my own freedom in more ways than one.

I don’t use the regular way much, but you bring a great point to the forefront here. I may have to incorporate it into my own practices just to see if it will do the same for me as well.

Thanks, Chica! ;)
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Kesha Brown October 6, 2012 at 9:47 pm

I often re-read nonfiction books as well because it never fails, the next time I read it, I pick up something else/new, something I may need at that very moment, something I may have missed earlier because I wasn’t focused on it! Love it :-)

Hopefully incorporating the writing task does help you D. If not, I’m sure you’ll find a way to get back to Self quicker (each time you work on understanding the issue, you’ll get faster and quicker at resolving things!).
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Deone October 8, 2012 at 10:50 am

Thanks Kesha. :) I loved what you shared here… “…each time you work on understanding the issue, you’ll get faster and quicker at resolving things!” That’s SO true!

I am truly grateful for your connection and friendship, my friend. :) Stay awesome!
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MELISASource October 5, 2012 at 11:50 pm

I have read this like 5 times!! :) Wednesday and Thursday were definitely WTF Days for me!! Everything that you said about how you were feeling rang true for me! No matter what i did, I just couldn’t seem to snap out of it–it was crazy! So I am so glad that you wrote this because it was right on time for me: I’m telling you Deone that I’ve read it ~several~ times over the course of these 2 days! It has helped me so much in dealing with the “rough funk” that i was going through. Again I say: Thank You!! :)
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Deone October 8, 2012 at 10:08 am

I’m so glad this post resonated so greatly with you, my dear friend. Every since the beginning of this journey, it would seem that our desire for growth and self-betterment has been amazingly similar. It’s almost as though the was much order and planning on our paths being crossed. Truly, the Creator is AWESOME and constantly showing us how much He adores His creations, by the plans He has for our lives. You are most welcome, Makeba. :)
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Adrienne October 8, 2012 at 6:24 pm

I would think that everyone has had one of these days Deone. I know for me it was last April when my girlfriend lost her husband to cancer. Like you missing your Mom, the thoughts just would not go away. The what if’s or could we have done more. The things we really have no control over whatsoever so I just gave into them, let them rip through me so that I could start down that healing path.

Since then though it’s been smooth sailing. No chatter or junk floating into my thoughts. Knock on wood I didn’t just set something off too after reading this.

Thanks for sharing this with us though because we’re all just human right!

~Adrienne
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Deone October 10, 2012 at 8:48 am

Hi Adrienne! :)

I remember vividly that moment you were faced with last year. I felt the pain you were feeling through our shared messages back and forth. I’m so delighted to read that you were able to let those feeling pass through you and allowed the healing process to take place. Many people suppress those feelings. They think that if they suppress them or don’t allow them the space in their lives that they will somehow just go away. And in many ways they will. However, unfinished energies like that always come back up in different forms, when we least expect and when we least need for them too. I’m learning that it’s best to feel the emotions, to let them have their space, and allow them to pass – knowing that they will eventually pass.

Thank you for sharing that with me and the other readers. It’s examples like the one you’ve shared that is going to give others the message of hope that’s most needed. :) Many blessings to you, my dear friend.
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marquita herald October 9, 2012 at 2:48 pm

Wow do I relate to this article! Except for me those WTF days always seem to launch around 2am. I wake up with my mind fully engaged in a multitude of thoughts so it must have been going on awhile in my subsconscious. And when this happens, there is no point attempting to go back to sleep. I keep meaning to revisit meditation hoping that it will help to quiet the mind – we’ll see :-)
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Deone October 10, 2012 at 9:04 am

Hi Marty,

It’s great reading you here as usual.

I know exactly what you mean, my dear. Those WTF moments seem to have no sense of time whatsoever do they. Our mind is such a fascinating tool. I have really been engaged in reading a lot more about how it all works, why it works in the way that it does, and how to take back control of my reactions to certain thoughts.

While I still don’t have many answers, I have taken notice that an ongoing pattern with most people who have studied the mind and thoughts is for us to realize that our thoughts are simply images that our subconscious feels it needs to show us. Nothing more. We watch the passing cars go pass and do nothing more. See them and release them.

I hope you’re able to reach that peaceful moment as well. I truly know how disturbing it can be… especially at 2 am in the morning. That’s certainly not the most fun time to be thinking. But, one that I too know so well. :)
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Jeevan Jacob John October 9, 2012 at 7:47 pm

I can relate, Deone, but in a different way.

I don’t remember having any days in which my past events or memories has came back to haunt me (then again, I am just starting out with my life :D ).

But, I have had those days in which I feel depressed and in a bad mood (In those days, I find it hard to do anything – whether it is related to blogging or studying for college).

What I usually do is just take the day off and spent my time on watching TV (or doing something else – other than what I normally do).

And it always works for me (well, there are circumstances in which that doesn’t work). So, I just experiment and change the way I do stuff.

Take for instance: Few days back, I was feeling very grumpy and was not able to do any of my daily commenting (for days!). I tried my usual method and it didn’t work. So, I decided to experiment and change my situations (this one always works!). What I did was one simple thing: Switching from Google Reader to Feedly.

That small switch gave me inspiration and motivated me to do the daily commenting like I always do ;)

Like they say, the little things always matter.

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Deone October 10, 2012 at 11:07 am

Hey there Jeevan,

Man, I must say, I’ve only read two comments from you thus far, but I’m really beginning to enjoy hearing from you. You bring much depth to the convo. Thanks for that.

I’m much like you in many aspects, whenever those moments hit me, I pull myself away from the normality of my usual day. I break up the routine a bit. Even though I’m not a big TV watcher these days, I do catch up on my faves that I’ve TIVO’s throughout the week when I get in my funk. I watch a lot of Oprah’s stuff really. Life Classes, Masters Class, Fix My Life, stuff like that. I call it, “Sharpening Television.” If it’s something that inspires me to grow, I watch it during those down periods.

Reading tends to help me out a lot as well, which is why I usually read two to three book at a time.

I feel you about the “small switches.” It certainly helps BIG TIME!

Thanks for stopping back by, mate. Like I said, it’s a pleasure reading you, my friend. :)
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Jeevan Jacob John October 10, 2012 at 8:46 pm

I am glad to hear that ;)

Cool :) For me, it’s all about Batman (Yeah, I get inspired when I watch Batman related stuff; Batman cartoons, listening to music tracks from various Batman movies).

2-3 books at a time? Wow, that’s a lot (Well, I mean how do you switch back and forth? I can’t do that. I have to focus on one book at a time or I will mix up the stuff).

No problemz ;)

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Deone October 16, 2012 at 6:10 am

Batman, huh? I’m a huge fan of the superhero’s, myself. I think there are certainly life lessons to be learned on that front, for sure.

I recently watched “Marvel’s The Avengers”, and found myself getting inspired on what to write about in future post. Rocking movie!

As far as the 2-3 books is concerned, it usually works best for me when I have a easy read and one of the more difficult ones. That way, I can take my time with the more difficult one, and breeze through the easier one. And when I say easy, I mean, I have some history of interest in that particular area. :)

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Jeevan Jacob John October 19, 2012 at 3:16 pm

I am not much of a fan of Avengers, but they did make a great movie ;)

I like Batman the best – lot of things to learn from him, especially the Nolan movies (those movies set me off in the personal development niche. Before that, I was just blogging on blogging and networking).

That’s great :) What I do is set 1 hour each day for reading (more for some days) so that I can finish a book in one week.

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Deone October 21, 2012 at 1:43 pm

Yeah, it was a great movie! A bit long, but the time flew by! :D

I’m a huge Batman fan too. Although, I haven’t seen the newest one yet. I’ll maybe check it out this afternoon. :)

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aayna October 9, 2012 at 10:28 pm

Hi Deone,
Firstly I am falling in love with the quotes you supplement your post with!! After reading this post, I got a feeling as if this post was tailor made for me, considering my situation. I am having a lot of “wtf days” every now and then. I am trying my best to overcome that feeling, but nothing seems to be helping. This post provided me an unexplainable relief. Thanks a ton for sharing this wonderful post.

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Deone October 10, 2012 at 8:12 pm

I’m glad you’re liking the quotes, Aayna! :) I’m also glad to read that you were able to get some relief from the unexplained. That Rocks! ;) Stay motivated, sweets – the more we get through them the easier they are for us to dismiss. ;)
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Samantha Bangayan October 15, 2012 at 1:26 am

Wow! I’m so impressed that you were able to pinpoint the source of your WTF day. I don’t know if I’ve ever been able to do that. Often, my restless mind goes off into varied directions and then everything gets muddled! =P Although I agree that recognition (or at least acceptance) can make a lot of difference. This is just what I needed to hear because Mondays are often my restless days. Now I’m ready! =)
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Deone October 23, 2012 at 5:01 pm

OMG!! I’m SO apologize for missing your comment, Samantha! I don’t know how that happened. :( Nonetheless, I’m so happy to read you here, my friend. I’ve missed you in the blogosphere.

Well, technically I was able to recognize the day and what caused my “WTF” moment because it was a few days after my mother’s day of passing. The actual day was pretty easy, but for some reason, the days after left me in a soggy mood that I could not seem to shake. I think when we’re able to recognize the source of the funk, we’re then better able to tackle it like it was a quarterback holding the ball one minute longer than he should have held it. :D

I’m glad to hear that you’re ready to tackle them, my friend. HUUUUUUT! ;)
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Dipa from emergency dentist kitchener October 20, 2012 at 6:27 am

Hi Deone, I am a regular to your blog and am amazed with the refreshing content you come up for your readers. Thank you, too, for taking the time to reply to some of the comments I have made in the past.

Regarding this post here, we now know that our feelings are The Universe’s way of guiding us. Deep meditation and thought control are the ways in which we can guide our feelings and actions in a positive direction. Thanks once again for providing us all with ‘food for thought’.

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Deone October 23, 2012 at 5:04 pm

Thank you for that humbling compliment, my friend. It means the world to me. I do apologize for just getting around to reading it. Somehow, my wires got twisted and comments were coming in quicker than they normally do. I’m glad you enjoy what you read here though, Dipa. It’s always a pleasure hearing from you.
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farouk October 24, 2012 at 5:59 am

i can relate to that as well
i noticed that without an ipod i can’t really run well and upon investigation i found that the ipod prevented certain thoughts from coming its my mind!
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Deone October 30, 2012 at 4:52 pm

Thank you for your insights on this, Farouk. I’ll definitely keep that one in mind the next time one of those days approach again. I’d better charge up the ole ipod. :D

Cheers.

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Sandra from baby nappy cakes October 25, 2012 at 7:24 am

Bad days can really get you stressed and depressed. So whenever you feel that a bad day’s coming up, you better pamper yourself first and try to be comfortable as much as you can. It’s the way you see things that matter.

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Deone October 30, 2012 at 5:00 pm

Hi Sandra,

Welcome! I like the way you think. “Pamper yourself first…” Roger that, my friend! Thanks! ;)

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Calra October 25, 2012 at 8:17 am

I always discount these bad days and move forward the next day. There’s really no sense going over and over things which doesn’t matter at all.

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Deone October 30, 2012 at 5:01 pm

Absolutely, Carla! But how do you make it through and move forward? Inquiring minds I’m sure want to know. Sleeping the entire day away is not an option. :)

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Michael Belk December 3, 2012 at 12:34 pm

Deone, it is funny you are talking about this subject because my house was robbed about two weeks ago.

The burglar took more than a laptop-he took my security. I no longer feel comfortable in my house.

I make sure all doors are locked before I go to sleep, I even lock the dead bolts, I hear small noises.

This has caused me to be more isolated, therefore I have more time to think to myself. I am losing trust in everyone.

I wait until I know you good before I put my trust in you. I was never like that before. I believed in everyone.

So, yeah I have had one of those days and it is continuing. thanks for the topic.
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Deone December 5, 2012 at 7:28 pm

Oh NO! That’s horrible, Michael! I’m glad you’re OK, though. I can certainly see how that would lend you an uneasy feeling and lack of security. That has always been one of my pet peeves – someone stealing from me. So I can only imagine how you feel to have had someone disrespect your privacy. If they haven’t yet, I hope the thief gets justice. But, more than that, I hope you are able to acquire and regain a sense of security in your home, and the ability to trust again. Blessings and positive vibes sent your way, buddy.

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