“Just trust yourself then you will know how to live.” ~ Goethe, Faust
Each of us has a life tool available to us that’s able to provide us with the courage, empowerment, self-sufficiency, and confidence it’ll take to assist us in expanding our territory.
In my opinion, no one explains this tool that has to be developed and crafted by our own selves quite like Mr. Bob Dylan, himself.
Are you familiar with his song, “If You Need Somebody You Can Trust, Trust Yourself?” If not, you should check out this link I’ve shared for the song and a couple of images the creator of this YouTube video provided for us of Mr. Dylan… after you’ve read the rest of this post, that is – if you would be so kind.
The life tool Bob and I are referring here, in this post, is that of self-trust.
The song is one of my favorites performed by him. The part that really inspired this post is the second verse. It says,
Trust yourself to know the way that will prove true in the end
Trust yourself to find the path where there is no if and when
Don’t trust me to show you the truth
When the truth may only be ashes and dust
If you want somebody you can trust, trust yourself
How many of us have looked in the direction of other people to find what lies true for ourselves?
How many times have we invested in other people, things, and then failed to render back to ourselves the same offering?
Now, don’t get me wrong, it’s just as important for us to receive and offer trust to others, but I have come to believe that we should be the first recipients of our own trust, before even trying to offer it elsewhere.
We each know someone who have placed their life in the hands of their religious leaders, their education, their spouse or companion, family members and some have gone as far to place such trust in people who are far better off than they believe themselves to be. I know, because I was one of them at one point, myself.
Even at the age of 35, I’m still getting my fair share of lessons of being aware of where and of how much I am placing my trust.
I’m not sure how other’s justify this behavior, but for me, I thought that if I gave that power to someone else, and if things didn’t work out as planned, I’d then have someone else I could blame.
Is there someone you’re blaming right now, because they didn’t use your trust , how you thought it should have been managed?
Here’s what I believe… self-trust has requirements. It require us to take responsibility for our actions, but it also allows us to make better choices concerning our lives, more confidently. It takes away the second-guessing and doubting that tends to occur when we fall in those times of uncertainty.
As I have continued to reshape the trust I have in myself, I find that I am growing in how I respond, manage, and react when it comes to making decisions and life choices.
So on today, I wanted to share a few essential improvements I’ve made, in order to improve my own self-trust. Perhaps, if you’re lacking in this department, you will find them useful, as well. But if the trust you have in yourself is certain, then this will simply be a reminder, enjoy.
- As previously stated above, learn to take responsibility for what’s being said and done, by you.
- Retrain yourself on how you can better communicate with yourself and others. (This one is a BIGGIE)
- Learn to listen to your intuition or that pang in your gut. It usually knows what’s best for you.
- There may not be an answer each time. Learn to accept that. There’s somethings in life, we just aren’t meant to know – right now or at all.
- Use the wisdom of other people that’s already been shared. However, choose whose information you will use very wisely.
- Trust your past experiences. A lot can be learned from past mistakes and failures. It’s all in our perception. Remember what Norman Vincent Peale said, “…No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities — always see them, for they’re always there.”
- Avoid negative people who believe they know what’s best for your situation. Become selective of the information you share, and with whom you share it.
- Don’t be afraid to try it differently. Begin shattering the windows and tearing down the walls of your comfort zone. It really is a self-made prison, but one that we have to want to break free from.
- Give yourself a little slack. You don’t have all the answers, and that’s OK. That’s the beauty of life. We get to learn as we go along.
- Stay in your lane, boo. Be a ghost to certain life situations. Know what’s meant for you to entertain, and what’s not.
By learning how to trust ourselves, we also will begin to understand what Bob Dylan meant when he sung those words… If we need somebody we can trust, we need only to begin trusting the power within us.
Over to you,
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