“Really? Ah, I don’t think so“, said the other, but which one of them was right?
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Over the past weekend, as I gazed across the Georgia Mountains, taking in all that the environment offered me – its beauty, the still silence, and a mysterious, almost eerie, powerful presence that seemed to linger around me where I sat and pondered on life. It was there this post came and the series I’ll be presenting next week, came to life.
I shared recently with you in a previous post, how I believe nature inspires us not only in being a resource available for our use, but how it also comes to teach us things about ourselves, in the process.
A Lesson on the Mount
The lesson I would gather, sitting on the side of the mountain and staring out into one of the Universe’s greatest masterpieces, left me questioning ever using the statement concerning myself, ever again.
It certainly wouldn’t be because I am convinced I will no longer make any more mistakes, and I cannot say with much certainty that every wrong choice and decision I make from now on, will be the result of me shooting my own self in the foot.
Nope, my one and only reason for discharging this statement from my self-talk, and why I think you should as well, is mainly because I truly believe that what we focus on and speak into our lives the most, increases.
This journey of self-discovery has enlightened me of not only the lies and hypocrisies I took possession of from others, but it has also – more so, in fact – has shown me where I was falling short in my self-communications and better life practices with myself.
Here are just a few other inconsistencies and solutions, I see with using the saying we are our own worst enemy. It’s my hope, you’ll never see yourself as your enemy ever again, either.
“The best way to destroy an enemy is to make him a friend.” ~Abraham Lincoln
You Are What You Think, Act, Say, and Accept That You Are
- We treat our enemies a bit differently, than we do our friends and loved ones, don’t we? If we are our own enemies, how much better will we allow ourselves to be treated, by others and ourselves? If we were to see ourselves as an enemy, it would be difficult to believe we are worthy of having the best that life has to offer us.
Solution: Treat yourself like the King or Queen that you are, and see yourself rather as a lover of your own life, a confidant, and a comrade. When we see ourselves in a better light, we treat others (and ourselves) accordingly, and demand that others do the same. If other people aren’t able to treat you, as you deserve to be treated, then they don’t deserve YOU, either.
- An enemy should always be watched, and be considered a threat. If you were your enemy, are you watching your own actions, thoughts, and conversations – ensuring that none of them is blocking you from reaching your fullest potential in life? What are you settling for in your life, throughout your environment, and in your belief system, that you could potentially be used as a threat against yourself later?
Solution: Become mindful of whom you are to you. Recognize whatever you believe about yourself, your past, each of your experiences (whether good or bad), and begin immediately, making changes to anything that may have you living a life of mediocrity, or even living it as a victim. Get better at being you.
- Many choose to see their enemies as a distant memory; they may have forgiven them, or they’ve simply forgotten about them, altogether – using the experience as a reason to cut off all ties to that individual in question. Now, imagine if we were to treat ourselves in this fashion, and each time we had a mishap, experienced a failure or disappointment, or even if we discovered a fear in our life; we’d be cutting ourselves off and disassociating ourselves from ourselves, each time. It may seem as if it would prove to be difficult for some people to do this to themselves, but if you’re in doubt, I employ you to visit a psychiatric ward or a prison of your choice, to see firsthand what a person who has disassociated with themselves and the world, looks like.
Solutions: Give yourself a break. Wipe up the spills in your life, and move on. F.I.Y – life is about having experiences and gathering the lessons it has to teach us. Experiences come from performing actions and making mistakes. Without mistakes, failures, and disappointments, we would have no experiences.
- Today’s random thoughts could become tomorrow’s reality. If we become more focused on giving our past, our mistakes, failures, disappointments, and fears, the title tags to classify us as being our own worst enemy; we cannot be surprised when we begin treating ourselves like the enemy.
Solutions: Retrain your way of thinking about yourself and the world. Change your environment – and if you can’t change your environment right away, then start by changing your inner environment.
What Do You See When You Look Your Way
The perception we carry about ourselves shines through, as a brilliant sunrise does on each brand new day; we can’t help but to attract certain things and people into our lives because of what we consciously and unconsciously are sending out.
Mastering a better positive self-talk about ourselves changes what we’re telling others, whenever we’re telling them who we are.
It’s our own perception of ourselves that others will base the respect they’ll render to us, as well as how much trustworthiness they will supply on our behalf.
So no thank you, to whomever it may concern, I will not adopt the belief that I am an enemy of me. For I know with a lot more certainty, that as a man thinks, so shall he become.
So again I ask, are we really our own worst enemy? I hope you’ll join me by saying, “No thank you, I am not my enemy!”