Too often we allow our bad feelings to dictate to us what the rest of our day will be like; instead of it being the other way around. I’m sure you’ve heard yourself saying this phrase a time or two, “I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning.”
You didn’t really get up on the wrong side of the bed, did you?
You got up on the exact same side you’ve been getting out of, some of you for the last 10 + years or more.
I wonder whoever came up with that nonsense, anyways. I mean really… Is there really a right side of the bed that determines how the emotions of our day will play out?
Nope, I didn’t think so.
Here’s what I do believe. Over the years, we have become almost obsessed, going mostly by how we feel. We are beginning to rely on our “feelings” and emotions more and more each day.
So much so, that the evidence shows up in and throughout the way we live from day to day.
We don’t really enjoy waiting that much anymore, do we? We want it faster than we got it on yesterday. If it were for sale, we would buy our happiness clean off the shelves, it wouldn’t even matter if there weren’t enough of it to go around, we’d have to have the last one!
We tell ourselves that we don’t feel like doing this or that, and usually that’s the end of it. “No debates on the matter and no questions asked, please. Thaaanks.”
But one must wonder, are we becoming so in tune with “my emotions”, that we’re drowning out our inner voice in the process.
Do we believe that we have more control over our attitude and physiology than we often give ourselves credit for? Sure, we’re going to have bad days. They’re bound to show up from time to time. Right? I’m sure not even Gandhi had days where everything went as planned.
However, if we take more control of our attitude, body language, and physiology, we would control a lot of those days we choose to blame “the wrong side of the bed” on. Don’t think I’m just talking to you on this… this is goes for me as well. More so for myself.
Anthony Tony Robbins, one of my favorite motivational speakers (as many of you know), in his Unlimited Power collections says this about physiology and body language,
“If you say, ‘I absolutely will do that,’ and your physiology is unified — that is, your posture, your facial expression, your breathing pattern, the quality of your gestures and movements, and your words and tonality match — you absolutely will do it. Congruent states are what we all want to move toward, and the biggest step you can take is to be sure you’re in a firm, decisive, congruent physiology. If your words and your body don’t match up, you’ re not going to be totally effective.” ~Unlimited Power, page 160
I believe what Tony is saying here, is that we have the power within us; we must ignore what we are feeling, and give our subconscious clues, as to what we will feel. It’s almost like a game of chess that we’re playing against our own minds. We have to make the first move. Our mission, to be the first to call, Checkmate.
On WROAR, with Rob and Jk, I’ve been learning a lot of great Personal Growth tips and practices, and something that seems to be a growing pattern with the phenomenal lessons Rob’s been presenting; is that most of the exercises start with playing tricks on our mind and our emotional feelings.
So, I challenge you to make the day effective by starting off with a better outlook of what it will bring. Here’s 5 things that have helped me to throw my feelings under a bus. I hope it does for you, as well. Figuratively speaking, of course. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT THROW YOURSELF UNDER A BUS! Bad Feelings, folks, nothing else… that’s it!
(I’m sure there are others… find as many as it will take for you)
- Wake up with a smile – Even if you don’t feel like smiling, paste one on until you can convince yourself that it’s supposed to be there.
- Wake up with gratitude and thanks - If for nothing else, but that you were able to see, yet, another awesome day.
- Write positive “I am’s…” - Write down 5 or 6 things (more, if you’d like) that you want to see come to fruition in your life (or that are already there). Place them on a sticky notes somewhere you’ll see them daily, like on a mirror in the bathroom, or even on the dashboard of your car. This gives your subconscious something new to work with; instead of the same ole, same message you find yourself thinking. Here are some “I am’s” examples, ”I am attracting all that is good to me today”, or “I am content”, or one of my faves… “I am living out my life on purpose.”
- Do that thing your feelings are telling you not to do - Go on that walk, take that vacation, relive that moment with your partner or spouse, start that business you’ve been putting off. Just Do It!
- Write them down - This has turned out to be one of my faves. With it, you have several options that you can practice.
- Write them down, and tear them up - Tearing that feeling up sometimes creates a release from it.
- Write them down in a journal - Revisit them when you need to reflect on how you handled those feelings on that day.
- Write them down, and turn the page on them - Letting it go, and not giving it any further space in your mind or any of your energy.
I’m certainly not saying that any of them will be easy; especially if you’re not used to the practices. I will say, that it won’t hurt to give them a try. I challenge you to give them time to work. Before you know it your feelings will understand that you are back at the helm, and more and more, you’ll be hearing yourself crying out, “Checkmate!”