I know because for many years I would allow that same risky lesson to keep me stagnate. The golden advice, “Never forget where you’ve come from.”
Now, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t hold pride from whence you came, but holding pride and allowing your pride to hold you back; are relatively two completely different things.
While it is good to remember the lessons we were given; I’ve come to believe that sometimes forgetting where we’ve come from is an idea we may have to adopt whether we want to or not.
I’m certainly not recommending that you forget to the point that you don’t apply the useful lessons of yesteryear, but if you’re reading this blog; then that let’s me know you’re seeking more for your life.
If that is the case, then there may come a time when your goals and dreams will not align with the beliefs and mindsets of them that knew you back in the day.
You May Have to Forget the Way it Used to Be
I wrote a post awhile back titled, “Releasing My Mindset.” In that post I wrote, “We should always aim to be better than we were the day before. We should constantly and consistently seek to become better than we were on yesterday.”
So let me ask you this, what is “Person A” to do while in the midst of them letting their old way of thinking go; the people that once couldn’t get enough of their presence of them, have now decided that not only have they had enough; but because “Person A” is seeking more for their life, they are now considered a sell-out or even worse?
Listen, if success or simply a better life is what you seek, and you know the crowd you used to spend most, if not all of your time with, isn’t quite amused about the changes you’re making; you must know that you have a very hard decisions you may need to make.
- You can continue to fall in line and appease people who would rather you do as you’re told, conforming to their desires and wishes; but by doing so, you will keep getting the same results you’ve always been getting.
- Or, you can bid those who wish nothing more than to control you with their mind manipulations, farewell; and then precede going after your goals and dreams.
I must warn you though, if you proceed forward towards those goals and dreams, your old fan club will decrease dramatically. People you thought would always be there supporting you along the way; will all of a sudden vanish almost into thin air.
People love familiarity; especially when it can be controlled by them.
Once you give up that familiarity, and begin throwing people off by not doing what came normal for you in the past; you can pretty much begin to forget all about where you came from.
As a matter of fact, you don’t have to forget it at all, or them for that matter; they will sometimes do the hard work for you. Oftentimes without even a single clue as to what they’re actually doing.
“The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.” ~Maya Angelou
Never Put Your Happiness on Hold
My partner and I have been together, come next month for five years. Out of those five, we’ve been monogamous and have lived together for four of those years. I have to let you know as well, that he’s of another ethnicity; you’d think in 2012 it wouldn’t matter, but unfortunately in certain parts of this great planet it still does for some.
In the beginning of our relationship, it seemed everyone was accepting of it. However, life tends to happen and things certainly have changed.
I’ve had people who have told me they don’t agree with the lifestyle altogether, and have completely cut me out of their lives because of it. No problem, good riddens.
There have been some that told me, because my partner is white; he’s only using me and will leave me when he’s done. He’s been absolutely supportive of me and my endeavors… Next.
Then there have even been some that live in the same city we live in, less than twenty minutes away, whom I used to be extremely close with that haven’t been to our home in over a year and a half. Now that’s funny! Like I said before, things certainly have changed.
Now I won’t say that none of this has been easy or that it hasn’t hurt me; after all I am human.
However, when my happiness is not being thought about, and the individuals who “love” me would prefer me to renounce my happiness; because it inconveniences them; that to me shows signs of a person who isn’t content with their own life, and would prefer to run the lives of others.
If you allow other people to run your life, you betcha bottom dollar they’re going to do just that.
Say you’ve devoted time, devotion, and effort towards a dream or goal you’ve set. If you come remotely close to accomplishing what you’ve set out to do; don’t be naïve to think everyone will be overjoyed that you did what you said you would, or be happy that you’ve been rewarded for your dedication.
People are a funny bunch. Much like the minds of crabs they don’t always enjoy seeing another get ahead. A lot of the time, it’s not even the point that the individual is getting ahead; it’s more so that they are passing the hater up.
Aeschylus was quoted to have said, “It is in the character of very few men to honor without envy a friend who has prospered.”
Leaving the Familiar to Reach New Heights
Although I have lost some of my closest relationships in chasing after my dreams; I realize that I could not have gotten any of what I have done accomplished had some of those people been there. So in that aspect, their leaving was actually a benefit that worked out fantastic for me.
I’m sure that’s not what they had in mind, but oh well… to them I say “Thank you very much.”
You should also know that the Universe conspires for us to succeed at everything we do.
So whenever a person desires to leave, or if you yourself must cut back time with certain folks; you should know that their exit, will more than likely offer an entrance for more beneficial and productive types of relationships.
You will begin to notice that not only do these perfect strangers support you, but they will also inspire you to achieve your goals and dreams, as well.
You may have to cope with being alone for awhile though, but you won’t have to bear that burden for very long.
Stay focused on the matter at hand. Keep the door open for the right people to come through it, by staying positive.
Forgive them that left, improve upon yourself, and don’t let anyone make you believe that you have to always remember where you’ve come from in order to succeed.
So in order to reach your fullest potential; sometimes you may have to lose in order to truly win.
Do you believe that sometimes we have to forget where we’ve come from in order to be successful? Have you ever had to lose very close friends or family in order to reach a goal or dream?
Share you experience with us. There could be someone reading your thoughts that may be in need of hearing what you have to say. And don’t forget to share this post with your friends and family, as well. I believe it will assist many, or maybe help them form their own opinions about the topic at hand.
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