Patience and I have always had a peculiar kind of a relationship. I guess you can say, I’ve never really mastered the whole waiting thing.
I can recall on many instances growing up and attending the storefront church with my grandmother; where some of their favorite sermons had to do with patience. It was there that I would learn that patience is a virtue that we all should possess.
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I, on the other hand, when it came to patience, used to relate a bit more with the 1989 hit song delivered by Queen, titled, “I Want It All”. “Yeah, yeah…I want it all, I want it all, I want it all, and I want it now!” Get my drift?
While I still love the song, my attitude towards patience has changed tremendously!
Now, I’m still not professing to be a master of having patience, but overtime I have come to understand that most of the things worth having in this life, arrive only after we’ve learned to have some patience.
Patience Defined and Why I need to Wait?
Dictionary.com gave this definition for patience, “The quality of being patient, as the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.”
Wow! Now, I see why it’s been a struggle for me all this time.
In a recent post titled, “Have a Little Patience”, my dear friend Chrysta Bairre over at Live Love Work, stated this that actually moved me when I read it. “When I lack patience in my life, I am more likely to make hasty decisions, to sacrifice my long term goals for short term gain, and to replace gratitude with impatience.”
This got me to thinking about my own relationship with patience… and yes, it’s been an “on again, off again type of a relationship” that’s constantly growing and flourishing.
I begin to think about how many things I had blocked from coming to fruition, because I failed to have a little patience. How often was I right at the cusp of success, but lost out on it because I failed to see whatever it was to the end? How many things in my life had I walked away from just because it didn’t happen when I thought it should have?
How many times had I been too angry, annoyed, complained, loss my temper, gotten irritated, and missed out on what could’ve been the best thing that ever happened to me; all because I didn’t want to wait for it to show up?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m certainly not crying over spilled milk here. I’ve actually grown some as far as patience is concerned.
I’ve come to know that it’s in the waiting room of life that we find patience. When life has thrown us curve ball after curve ball; we’re simply being given patience. Every hiccup, every lost, each downfall, and yes even when we go without what we want; the Universe is handing us a dose of patience and teaching us how to wait.
For the past eleven plus years, I’ve had some life experiences that have almost caused me to throw in every towel I had hanging. Some of them even had me thinking about ending this precious life of mine. It hasn’t been easy by far, but I’m grateful for each experience, good and bad alike.
The lessons my grandmother placed in me, helped me to always know that there is never a reason or need to throw in the towel; I simply needed to get new towels… which is just my way of saying, change my approach and perception about my life.
So that’s exactly what I’ve done. I got a brand new outlook about patience, because I’ve begun to make changes within me. Changes that have caused me to look at no one else but Deeone. When I stop comparing myself to others my patience began to grow.
Patience has also given me the courage to go after my dreams, and not get discouraged when it doesn’t happen as quickly as I’d like for it too. It’s patience that has taught me #9 of last weeks post, that I should never give up on what I want and who I want to become.
He who endures with patience is a conqueror. ~Latin Proverb
My Tip to Others On Waiting it Out
Where we often go wrong with patience is not allowing room for change in our plans. We want it to happen just how we play it out in our mind. Here’s a little secret that many of us don’t know. When we make concrete plans for our life, our lives and the Universe has a real “LMBO” moment on our account.
Now I’m not telling anyone not to have a plan of action. We should definitely know the vicinity of where we’d like to land in life. However, we should leave a little leeway just in case our method for getting there isn’t the one we thought it would be.
For I’ve come to believe that there are times when life is teaching us to wait, because it has something better for us than what we could have ever thought to plan for ourselves. And it takes patience to see and know that such is the case. That’s why we need patience.
Turning it over to you…
Are you an individual that could use a bit more patience? Or do you have a clear understanding that everything happens in it’s own timing?
What, if anything, would you like to share on the topic of patience and waiting?
I’d love to read you thoughts, feedback, and comments. Remember, your insights could assist someone else in their journey, so please feel free to share your thoughts and this post with others. Cheers and Blessings.
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I’m sure it’s no surprise I LOVED this post, Deeone! And thank you for the very generous link to my blog. <3
I have made progress in the area of patience, and yet when I sat down to write about patience I wasn't feeling very patient and in my impatience wasn't sure what I was going to write about it.
Fortunately when I started considering patience objectively, I was able to separate the emotional response I was experiencing from the reality of life.
In my impatience I saw those things I wasn't happy with, the things I wanted to change.
Carefully considering patience as an action, not an emotion, I was able to adjust my perspective and notice all the things I am happy with in addition to the things I wanted to change. And I recognized that feeling impatience creates feelings of frustration and unhappiness, whereas practicing patience allows me to make the best of life on life's terms, and be open to possibilities.
Patience is a wonderful topic to write about and consider because every time I do I notice feelings of peace washing over me, and I find a little more acceptance with life as it is today, knowing I'm moving forward to great future that will happen in it's own time.
Have a grateful day!
Chrysta
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Good Day Chrysta!
I’m certainly glad that you enjoyed the post, and I appreciate you allowing me to use the link to yours as well.
I wanted to write on patience, because I had been lacking a bit of it working on my eBook and Book. My ego had been really hounding me about it, and I realized that it was because I was getting impatient with the process. So I wrote this sorta as a reminder to myself of what I need to apply more of to my life and to these projects.
Like you, I have grown exponentially in the area compared to my approach to patience in the past, but I know that there is always room for improvement.
When I read your post on the topic, it really drove home a lot great points that I have since applied to my daily practices. For that, I thank you.
And even in your feedback here, I am appreciative of what you shared… I too, wanted to write this post in a frame of mind that allowed my true feelings of patience to be portrayed, and not my feelings of frustration that my writing projects might have been causing me at the time.
You’re so write about patience being a great topic to write about. In writing about it, I found out just how much I really have of it. And it’s not what my ego has been telling me I have either, I assure you.
When we write about such things, we not only share with others what we think about the topic, but we also show ourselves how much we really know about it; as well as teach ourselves what we need to know about it as well.
Thank you for such an inspiring post that generated inspiration for this one, and for your wonderful comment here as well.
It’s always a pleasure to hear from you, my dear. May we both continue to grow in our patience and share that patience with others. Cheers!
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Hi Deeone,
When I think of patience, I think of Tokugawa Ieyasu, the founder of the Tokugawa Shogunate in Japan. In an era where there were many brilliant and powerful men superior to Ieyasu, he had to rely on patience to survive and fulfil his ambition. Finally, at the age of 60, he outlasted all his opponents to become shogun and founded an era that lasted 250 years. To me, he has always been an inspiration for patience. Here is a famous quote on patience by Ieyasu.
“The strong manly ones in life are those who understand the meaning of the word patience. Patience means restraining one’s inclinations. There are seven emotions: joy, anger, anxiety, adoration, grief, fear, and hate, and if a man does not give way to these he can be called patient. I am not as strong as I might be, but I have long known and practiced patience. And if my descendants wish to be as I am, they must study patience”
If being strong and manly means being patient, then I want to be patient haha! More importantly, I realize that there are many people who may be better than I am, but if I hope to achieve my goal, I must persevere.
To achieve lasting success, we need to lay a firm and strong foundation first. And for anything to be firm and strong, it takes time. We need only look to nature to understand this. Oak trees for example, take time to grow big and strong. They do not spring up overnight. But in the end, their gradual development is rewarded with lasting strength. Similarly, we need patience because lasting success needs gradual development to achieve. If it is important, then it is worth the wait as we lay the foundation and take the steps needed.
Thank you for sharing this lovely article!
Irving the Vizier
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Irving, my man,
How did I know that you would drop some mad wisdom on this topic? This was AWESOME man!
Thank you for sharing a portion of the story about Tokugawa Ieyasu. That was very inspiring and empowering to read! I also LOVED the quote by him as well.
I’m with you, If being strong and manly means being patient, count me in on that! I am seeing more and more, especially with my current endeavors, the importance of having a mentality of waiting it out. And I absolutely enjoy the comparison you gave of that to the oak tree. As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, we should “Adopt the pace of nature, her secret is patience.” We certainly can learn a great deal about patience from what we see throughout nature.
Thank for such a most excellent comment, my friend. That was extremely helpful to me, and I’m sure it will be for other’s as well. Cheers, buddy!
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Deeone,
Having patience is a challenge, especially in a connected world where we see so much expediency. If we take the time and dig a little deeper, we find that patience and hard work are what enabled to realize their dreams and purpose.
We need to stay focused, leverage the insights of our community, keep building, keep doing, and maintain our patience.
Great reminders and inspiration, as always!
Jon
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Good day Jon,
Oh so true, my friend. Patience is indeed is one of those challenges we face in this life. In a world that wants everything bought to us faster, faster cars, fast food, fast internet service, fast, fast, fast; I find that society is turning away from being patient. Although this is the case, we cannot rush what time alone will bring.
You’re absolutely right about staying focused, leveraging insights, and just keep moving forward towards those things we want to come to us. If patience is to bring them to us, it would be wise for us to stack up on as much patience as we can.
Thanks for such a wonderful contribution of your thoughts to this post. Always a pleasure to see you here at “RMT”, buddy. Cheers and Blessings.
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Hi Deeone! Like you, I struggle with patience. I’m NOT a patient person, though I am beginning to see that some plans do take time to unfold in the best way. I’m learning to sleep on ideas and questions, put books on my Wish List rather than directly into my Shopping Cart and I’m learning to trust.
I’m beginning to believe that patience is not only a virtue but a strength. If we can wait and trust and not give up, sooner or later something else is going to happen!
Lori
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Good day to you Lori, and Welcome to “The Release”, my friend!
It’s a delight to see you here!
What awesome ways you’ve shared to tap more into patience. I’d never even consider those as means to practice patience. This is exactly the reason I have such a love for blogging. We’re able to learn and share new insights and new ways of thinking and going about doing things, that we might normally would not have even considered.
Indeed, it’s not only a virtue, but a strength to daily work on and towards. LOVED that!
Thank you for bring such wealth of knowledge to the conversation. I look forward to seeing… and reading more from you.
Cheers, Mi Lady! 
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Hey Deeone,
Your very first sentence had me smiling. I knew this post was going to speak to me pretty bluntly and I loved how you put it. A peculiar relationship huh? Very nice. I usually just say that patience and I are fighting lol.
Patience is a virture I stuggle with too. I’m not and never have been a fan of waiting. I suppose that my journey into blogging and writing has taught me this too. I can totally feel your frustration which is why I started writing my book and then got side tracked with my shorter information books. I got quite adept at writing reports in university. Gather info, organize, write.
Writing my ‘real’ book is much tougher and I feel your pain. You have a vision and you want it on the paper now so that others can share it. I get it. It will happen. Consider that the book itself is bringing life lessons to you as you write it.
I for one am so glad that you made it through those dark days. You have a special light that is getting bright each and every day.
Throwing in the towel is very different from deciding something isn’t for you. There is a difference between giving up and giving in. There is a quote somewhere that you reminded me of. It talks about how it is in the moment just before breaking through to success we are most likely to give up. The darkest time is just before dawn…you know the gist.
I encourage you to hold on tight to your dreams, follow your heart and remember that this is YOUR life to live and you must let it unfold naturally.
We cannot hold onto a life plan too tightly or we just set ourselves up for dissapointment. We have to understand that we need to ebb and flow with lifes beautiful surprises. This is how we learn to love our life rather than fight with it.
Another wonderful post full of truth Deeone…rock on!
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Good day Bonnie,
If you knew how long I spent on that first sentence, that smile would have been an outright laugh.
I wanted the reader to really feel my past disdain for that virtue called patience. I wanted to be as transparent as possible with this post, because I knew I couldn’t be the only one that had these types of feelings towards waiting.
You totally get it… fighting, huh? Now that’s funny!
I agree though, blogging will teach you many things, and patience is one of the greatest lessons that comes from blogging… writing in general makes one very patient over time.
I never went to college, so everything I’m learning about writing is coming from reading up on it and studying others who have mastered the gift. I find that it’s a bit harder if one doesn’t have the training, even though I also think that I have a natural love for the art that makes it almost easy to grasp the lesson that writing has to teach me. The fact that I want this more than anything in the world has helped a lot too.
Thank you for sharing your frustration with writing your book with me here and in our previous conversations elsewhere. It has helped me tremendously to keep focusing on what I want to make happen. I find that the support from friends like you, and the wonderful support I get from Tim, to be really great motivational springs to get me to where I desire to be as a writer.
I know that I’ve done a lot over the year, but I want to do more. That’s where that “patience thing” comes back into play.
It has been those dark days that have let me know that I certainly have a story to tell. Not only that, but the story I have to tell will (I know for certain) be a help to whoever reads it with an open heart and mind. Thank you for seeing my light, my friend. It has been difficult trying to control the brightness of it.
Too bright and other’s despise you for it. Too dim and it no one sees it. So I’m constantly learning moderation as best I know how. I’m sure you know what I mean by that.
I am definitely determined not to give up… for the very fact that you bring back up. I know that the darkest moment, the point where it seems your losing ground, is right there at the cusp of success, as I mentioned in the post. I’ve certainly have had my share of missing the mark, because I couldn’t see how extremely close I was. That won’t happen ever again, and if I can help, anyone who will hear me I won’t let it happen to them either.
So know that I’m holding on and holding out. I am NOT giving this up, Chica! This is going to happen, and when it does I’ll have so many, but yet so few to thank for it.
Thank you for such an encouraging message. I cannot thank you enough for all that you have done. You my friend are AWESOME! <3
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Deeone.
I have to disagree with something you said because you can NEVER shine too brightly. I know what you mean by that and here’s the thing. Those people you make uncomfortable with your light…that’s their problem. Let them feel that discomfort because it comes from them holding back their own divine gifts.
Shine on my friend…you light can be a beacon to those who will gravitate towards it but only if you let it out.
MUAH…love you!
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Bonnie,
I totally understand what you’re saying, my friend. And I really thank you for your honesty and correction. The sad part is, I know this… I quote those very same lines to people who tell me the same thing.
When I went back and read that line, I was like, “Really dude!! Seriously!” You are absolutely right! And I appreciate you calling me on that. I really am!
SMH. This is exactly what my ego wants me to do… doubt myself. And downplay what gifts and talents I know are there. I love you dearly for being YOU, my friend. Even more so for calling me out when I’m in the wrong. That’s what’s up! And that’s what friends do.
I appreciate that, Chica!
Smooches!!!
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I always use to tell my Dad that I inherited my impatience from him. It seems that we both had it worse than anyone else in the family. I guess it doesn’t help that I’m also a Leo.
The older I get, the better I get to be honest with you Deeone but as I read your post, I realized just how much more work I truly have to go. I say this because I’m not having a good day today and I probably shouldn’t be online reading posts. But if I don’t keep my mind occupied I’ll go literally crazy.
I got some very devastating news last night so I’m an emotional wreck today. It’s also testing my patience big time because I’m playing the “why” game right now as I know I shouldn’t. Oh sure, I’ve learned all these lessons and have been so darn proud of myself but when you’re hit in the face with horrible news even the best revert back to not knowing one damn thing we’ve taken all this time to learn. Damn it! Urgh….
I guess I’m going to have to start all over again or go to sleep tonight and wake up with a whole new attitude.
But overall Deeone, your post was really wonderful and you are so right. I’m sorry I’m not in the right frame of mind to actually leave you a much better comment.
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There is no need to apologize for that, Adrienne. We have those days, and it’s okay to have them, at least I think so. It’s the perfect example as to what we endure and go through in this life that render us with a bit more patience.
I don’t know the news you received last night, but I do know that this too shall pass for you. If you need me, you know you need only say the word. I’m a great listener. You have my information, and I want you also to know that you’ve come to mean a great deal to me. So when you hurt, I hurt. Maybe not in the same context, or in the same depth, but I feel your pain through your words here.
While I appreciate your sentiments and insights on the post, I want more to know that you’ll be OK.
One more thing… the “why” game only makes matters worse sometimes. So breath and let what ever it is have its moment. For I know you’ve heard the saying, “Weeping may endure but for a night, but joy WILL come in the morning.
I love you dearly, and I hope it all works out. Blessings to you, my dear friend.
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Thank you Deeone, that means the world to me.
I’ve just been an emotional wreck today and these are the things that test us. I will openly admit to you that I’m failing miserably right now but thank you so much for your support.
When I get to the point where I’m not a crying mess, I may take you up on your offer. Yes world, Adrienne’s smile has disappeared. Only for now though, only for now.
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It passes, my friend. It always does. And you’ll look back and see that it helped you more than it hurt you.
I’ll stop right here, because I don’t want to put my foot in my mouth. Just know though, that I’m here, when and if you need me. No matter the time of day or night… if you need me I’m available.
Blessings.
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Great share my friend!! I’ll be honest in saying that my patience level goes back and forth, but it really depends on what it is. In most cases I can have a shockingly tremendous level of patience–so much so that at my last workplace I was often told by many execs and co-workers that I have “the patience of Job”
I would say that while I can be that way most times, I am certainly not like that ~all~ of the time: and that’s where this post comes into play! 
-I definitely have my moments when I feel that “waiting is not an option” and nothing or no one can deter me from feeling that way. I get angry and frustrated about it, too. But it isn’t long after that the conviction starts to seep in, then I realize that in error to be in such haste. And I truly agree: when you view and compare yourself to what others are doing and accomplishing, it truly makes “the whole patience thing” even worse, so it is a must to end that behavior and solely focus on you. Many of the great entertainers like Sidney Pointier, Will Smith, etc. always say that they never really pay attention to what others in their industry are doing–that they’re only competition is themselves. They only compare themselves to, well–themselves….and I think that is great. That’s what I work to do in every area of my life, and so far, it seems to be helping to make my patience level better.
Thank you for sharing this wonderful post– the truth is, I really needed the reminder about having patience!!
This has helped me a great deal.
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Good day Makeba,
I’m super delighted to hear that this was a great reminder to you. We all need them from time to time, don’t we?
I believe my greatest lesson with patience has been what you mentioned in your feedback; the need for me not to compare myself with what others are doing and focus more on what I need to do. It’s funny that you mentioned Will Smith, because that’s where I learned this very lesson from.
Several months ago… no, let’s go for weeks ago, I was getting really discouraged about my progress and how it seemed not to have been going as I’d like. But what I noticed is that I was comparing my journey to those in the industry and those that where in and outside of my niche.
That was a HORRIBLE move on my part. So what I had to do was put up my blinders, so to speak. This is a very competitive industry, and I know now that my skills, gifts, and talents aren’t to be compared to anyone else’s but my own. Simply because no one else has had my experiences, nor have I had theirs. So that is where the growth begin to take place for me.
Patience of Job, huh? Yes, that’s a good comparison of the patience that we should certainly strive for. Brother lost everything, but remained focus on what was most important. That kind of focus is indeed rewarding, if we can allow ourselves to maintain it.
I loved your feedback, my dear friend. It is inspiring and certainly motivating, that’s for sure. Thank you so much for sharing it with us here.
Cheers and Blessings.
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You know what Deeone — you are truly not alone in what you were experiencing!! I too found myself getting impatient and discouraged with the growth and progression of things, and it was all because of what I was seeing and hearing about from others in the industry. I’ve never been one to possess a spirit of jealousy, but I must be honest: sometimes some of the things would cause me to get really down and make me feel like I was doing many things(if not everything) wrong. Then, that impatience set in, and I found myself doing the “Nick Cannon”: working 2, 3, and sometimes 4 days STRAIGHT with no sleep and very little food or rest because I wanted right away what I was seeing everyone else have and get…………………………..and guess what happened as a result of that foolishness–POW: down for the count with illness for 9 days!! That taught me a “hard knocks” lesson in that my time will come when the Divine deems it so, and until then I’ve just gotta chill out (LOL), and pace myself–and most of all take care of myself!! ~Can’t progress in anything if I’m not here to do it, right?!
So be encouraged my friend–just know that there’s is indeed a HUGE amount of blessings in store for for you when the time comes!! 
Keep on shining and rising!! 
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Things certainly get a harder for us when we look and compare ourselves to other’s, don’t they, Makeba? I have certainly experienced and noticed myself getting burned out trying to do it like the “Pro-bloggers” out there, as well.
I’ve actually been working diligently on myself training myself on paying more attention to my own journey; practicing daily on perfecting my own path in this journey. I have said to myself that I will take only those things I find to be useful for my journey from others, and be comfortable in myself when the other things don’t apply or seem to be as useful.
I’m beginning to see somewhat of a pattern when this occurs. In the past, when I tried to keep up with “The Joneses”, those things I wanted would elude me as if I were chasing a fluttering butterfly.
So now, my new practice is allowing myself to grow into where I need to be, and not spend so much effort on doing it just how other’s are doing it. There are so many “rules of the game” out there. Yet we can’t help but believe that we are to have and form our own rules. We can never truly do it just as others do it anyway; we can only do it like we would do it. And like you said, when our time comes we will certainly be aware of it, first…. “chill out and pace ourselves”, that’s duly noted advice, Makeba.
Thanks for the encouragement, my dear friend. And I send you that same encouragement back.
Cheers!
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Yes indeed my friend!! ~And this is something that I had to apply to myself across the board: in the blogging world, in business and in doing my other projects, in my personal life–everywhere. Like everyone else, I love to feel that ‘great sense of accomplishment’, and when you’re dealing with what we’re talking about here in so many different areas of your one life, the practice of patience can *really* become a struggle! If I can be transparent here for a moment, for example in my life I oftentimes find that in a couple of areas it’s like, “Whoa-look at what all I’m accomplishing–I’m really doing the thing!” (LOL) but at the very same time, there’s these other couple of areas in my life where it’s like, “Geez, everyone else I see is accomplishing so much in this–I really need to step it up because I want that too.” Like you said, it can truly be a see-saw of emotions and trying to shake it all off and keep your focus in alignment. I’m a work in progress too, and I’m trying to learn that not every “rule of the game” is meant to be followed because that may not be the road that’s purposed for me and my personal testimony of success. ~Maybe I was predestined to create some new game rules. (ie. Tyler Perry
) -So yes, I’m right there with you on that one Dearie and just know that we are here to support and encourage each other. –As you can see, this topic is really blessing me–a true “Release” moment indeed!! I’m so glad you shared this subject with us!! 
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I hear you loud and clear, Chica! We celebrate our accomplishments to the hilt, and then turn around and beat ourselves royally when we don’t meet those invisible standards that we might’ve set for ourselves, or that others might have placed upon us. Either way, this is a horrible way to approach life’s minor defeats.
The greatest thing about life is that unless death follows the pursuit, failure is simply another opportunity to do it all over again -the next time we get to do it BETTER though!
When comparing ourselves to others in the game, when failure happens one might have to start completely over with original steps. This is likely to happen when we have to reconsider the steps the other person took to get where they are. Like you said, we simply don’t know what it took to get them there. Unless we wrote the steps down, which is highly unlikely, imitation of something never renders the exact same result or product.
Tyler is a perfect example of that. He refused to do it like everyone else, and he refused to do it how other people told him it should be done. Here was someone who knew and understood what it meant to be a trend breaker. He not only stepped outside of the box, but he took that box and totally reconfigured it to fit himself. And he didn’t get displaced because it didn’t happen like he thought it would, exactly when he thought it would happen. He just kept working towards it knowing that as long as he put action towards his goal, he would one day arrive at his desired destination. He recognized who was for him, and he didn’t let those who weren’t distract him. He’s truly an inspiration of what’s possible when we apply ourselves towards a vision and cause with patience.
I so ecstatic that this topic shared a releasing moment with you. That’s exactly what I wanted to come from this. Thank you for sharing such wonderful thoughts on the topic. I have truly enjoyed the conversation, my friend. Good stuff!!
There is a funny saying in Christianity. “Never pray for patience.” The saying stems from the idea that patience isn’t something you are born with, it is something that you gain through experience…and by definition, those experiences aren’t fun. Thanks for the great post! Your wisdom never ceases to amaze me! Keep up the great work Deeone!
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Good day to you, Burl!
I’m very familiar with that saying… my grandmother used to share it with me. I asked her once, “Why not?” She said, “Because when you ask for patience, you get the experience to get it. ” Now, she never told me, although I’m sure she knew, that some of the experiences we get to gather patience might be a bit testing in itself. However, I learned it on my own, and the answer she shared with me always played back in my memory.
Thanks for the compliment buddy. The “wisdom”, the little I do have came with a lot of testing experience. I’m grateful for them, the good, the bad, and even the “Do I have too?” ones. 
Thanks for the encouragement, my friend. It means a lot!
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Nice post Deeone, yet again!
Patience, patience, how many of us do really have it? I really wonder!
Yes, we all do have our down times and moments when things just the better of us and leave us all wrecked. And those times are the ones where we can think no further and lose our patience. Ideally, we shouldn’t really count those times, yet we do. I guess those are the real testing times as they call it.
Speaking of myself, I find myself to be a very patient person, but impatient where work is concerned! If I know some work is pending and it’s not getting done, due to whatever reasons, I do get impatient. I feel that it’s a natural behavior where work is concerned, because you know at the back of the mind that your work will suffer if it’s not done in time. And that bit of impatience is needed to give you the push to get it done.
But that happens with me only where professional work, clients and their work is concerned. Otherwise, I am a patient person I feel, and have always been one.
I do wonder how people who are truly impatient carry on living, as their blood pressure and heart rate would forever be on the rise!! My dad was like that a long-long time back, though with time he’s become such a patient person. Yes, he practices meditation and yoga- they do help such people to calm their thoughts from running and soothes them out.
I guess you just need to take things as they come, accept the changes coming forth your life, and try your best to adjust to the situation. And even if you are the kinds who tends to get impatient, I think practicing ways to overcome it would only do good to you.
Thanks for sharing and you know I love the quotes in-between as well
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Hi Harleena!
What a wonderful comment, my friend!
I don’t know why, but I’ve always imagined you as being patient. It’s not that I “really know you”, but as long as we’ve been connected, I feel like we’ve known one another forever.
That’s only a sign that you’ve made many lasting impressions with me.
I loved the first line in your feedback as well. Since really, we never really know who actually has patience and who doesn’t. The only way for one to tell is to be placed in a situation where ones patience is tested. So, in that sense, I too wonder how many really have that kind of patience.
We all can say that we do, but there really isn’t any way of seeing it, is there? It’s not like we can put it on like one of those “Hello my name is” stickers. And even if we could, I’m sure there are some people that would snatch theirs off as soon as a situation presented itself. Could you imagine?
I actually just had a mental picture of that happening… that would be hilarious.
I loved also that you threw the thought in there about our health and patience. I’m with you, not having any or having very little would have to result in so many health complications, I would imagine. Without patience an individual would stress about every little issue, and that would certainly cause some of the problems you listed… and even more that you didn’t.
For instance, i can recall you and I having a conversation about cancer patience and how sometimes the worrying alone seems to make matters even worse than they normally would’ve in the beginning. Meditation definitely help, that I know from experience. I haven’t gotten around to trying yoga yet though. Although I do want to sometime.
Thank you for sharing your insights with me on this. I really could go on and on with everything you shared, but I’m trying really hard to cut my feedback to the bare necessity. It’s obviously not working.
But comments like your’s always seems to get the best of me. 
Thanks for pulling the words out.
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Thanks for your warm and kind words Deeone!
Yes indeed, there was some special thing that did connect us, or perhaps it was ‘patience’
The mental picture we make out of a person could really vary, and we can never really say who or what the real person may actually be. It all depends, and that’s where a little of ‘intuition’ comes in, that sixth sense kind of a gut feeling as they call it!
I mentioned health, as I have seen my dad, who was earlier impatient, perhaps due to his high ranking post in the army, where you do need to be authoritative and in command all the time. But after his retirement and taking you meditation and yoga, I have seen a drastic change in him- health-wise. Perhaps the loss of my mom also sobered him a down a great deal.
Ah…and don’t even think about cutting down the length of your comments (not with me at least), nor on the blog, as then you wouldn’t really be you!! I guess those who know you, know your length of the posts is meant to convey all that’s within your heart!
Well I am another one like you, never ending posts (this latest one I wrote!!) and never ending loooong comments too.
It’s just the way we are, and made this ways…take us or leave us as we are!!
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You’re of course welcome, Harleena.
Whatever the reason for our being connected, I am truly grateful for it nonetheless. You’ve been one of the many bloggers I’ve grown to respect and appreciate the forming of friendship. I can truly agree with you that intuition has played a great part in most of these types of connections. Intuition sometimes is the only thing we have to go by. So true!
Amazing the lessons we learn from our parents in how they go about living their lives, isn’t it? They truly teach us more with their actions what this life is all about, more than any words ever could have; although their words are valuable tools in life as well.
Thank you for your encouraging words on posts and comments. I believe those that have mentioned my doing so, have meant it jokingly, but I always take things literally; I think I do so in an effort to better myself. However, I need to always consider what’s just me and what’s not. As you said, this is just apart of who I am as an individual. You make a great point on this, my friend.
Thank you so much for that! I really appreciate your inspiring words.
I hope you’re enjoying your weekend… chat with you soon.
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Deeone,
First off – thank you for visiting my site – it led me here today, and…your writing is fantastic!
I like to think I’m a patient person – although the truth is, there are moments when it goes right out the window (even as I tell myself to “be more patient”). In fact, I had a moment this morning where that exact thing happened. Hmmm….this is a really great reminder for me – and for those moments when I slip…that I can get a new set of towels (I love that, by the way!).
It’s great to be here…
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Good day Lance and Welcome!
It’s great to have you here, my friend.
I’m glad that the curiosity got the best of me this morning and caused me to venture over to your place in the blogosphere. And to think, we’ve been following one another for some time now. This only goes to prove to me that I need to really pay more close attention to those I follow. 
Thanks for that lesson, bud.
Thank you as well for the awesome compliment on my writing. That’s greatly appreciative, my friend. You have no idea.
You totally made my Friday!
Loved your feedback as well. No judgments here bud, I am still getting more patience as I grow along. I know that with every testing of my patience, I’m grasping a little bit more. That’s something worth keeping in mind, wouldn’t you say.
Again, it’s a pleasure to have you here… I look forward to getting to know you better. May you have a great weekend ahead! Mine is fastly approaching too.
Cheers buddy!
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I have made some hasty decisions I came to regret. Why did I make them? Because I could not tolerate the discomfort of waiting for things to take their natural course, to become clearer, to give others a chance to join in.
Like Fritz Perls said, Don’t push the river. It flows by itself.
One thing that has helped me a lot is just the simple technique of breathing into my belly. Very calming. It helps me be patient.
Great article.
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I loved and enjoyed reading your feedback, Galen!
I have done the same thing in areas in my life when it came to making hasty decisions. Each time I would regret making such decisions, because I would always have to pay the piper for them.
Loved that quote from Fritz Perls! It was powerful and straight to the point of what it means when we’re being impatient. It shows just how much control we really have over certain matters in this life; which is very little, eh.
Thanks for sharing what helps you with your patience. Our breathing does pay a great role in our being patient with life, those things it brings, with others and the patience we should have for ourselves.
Awesome feedback! I’m delighted that you enjoyed the read, my friend. Thanks.
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I try to see PATIENCE AS AN ACTION. I am not being passive. I am doing something. Nothing good has come to me being impatient. In fact. I look at all the things that have come to me by being patient. I met my wife on eHarmony. I so lucky that I was a patient and all those other relationships died on the vine. I was blessed to find the best by being patient.
Hey there Stephen and Welcome to the conversations here! It’s great to have your contribution.
I agree with you that patience is an action we have to choose to practice in our lives. I also loved the fact that you shared an example of what you meant by that, with personal action steps you’ve taken in your marriage. I’m glad you found the best love for you through patience.
For I’m sure we both know of many who may have missed out on love, because they didn’t apply patience to the situation; and they then ended up with someone who they should have took the time to get to know a lot better. Waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right is definitely an exercise in being patient.
So very true… thanks so much for sharing your experience and thoughts on this topic Stephen. Please feel free to come back and share on other topics as well.
Cheers!
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Hi Deeone, I, too, am an impatient person. I can relate to the Queen song, I always thought it was written for me!
But I learned a trick when I was very young. I was eight years old and playing in my front yard with my best friend who lived across the street. Her family was going to the store and wanted her to come with them. She got in the car and then her family said she would be back in an hour. I tried to sit patiently waiting on our front lawn for an hour. An hour isn’t long, is it?
Well, I was bored and that hour seemed like a year. So I went and did something else fun (I can’t remember exactly what that was, as it was a long time ago!) and before I knew it, she was back to play with me.
So, Deeone, instead of waiting impatiently, try redirecting your attention to something else fun. The time will fly by!
You and me both, Carolyn. I also felt Queen’s song was written with me in mind. In reality though, I guess it just goes to show that we all could use a little more patience.
Awesome example of patience you shared with us too, my friend. You’re absolutely right on how redirecting our attention can help assist us in the waiting process.
Your story caused me to think of the actions performed by gardeners. When we plant a seed or bulb in the dirt, it would seem like it took forever for it to grow, if we were to just sit there looking at it the entire time. It’s only when we go on about our lives, dividing our attention to the rest of the garden, watering and nourishing the entire garden, and not just the seed we’ve planted; only then will we begin to see the seed propagate.
Thanks for that great reminder, my friend. It’s so important for us to have fun in the process of waiting. Paying attention to everything in the garden and not just the things we want to come to fruition.
Excellent feedback, Carolyn! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. I really enjoyed what you had to say.
Here’s to allowing time to do what it does best… fly by! Cheers!
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Hi Deeone, Great gardening example! Have you ever seen the Peter Sellers classic Being There? A lot can be learned from gardening.
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Good day Carolyn, I’ve never heard of Being There, but if it comes recommended I will have to look it up. I’m a huge fan of applying the lessons one might learn in the garden to life. So I’m sure I will appreciate the message in this movie (assuming that it’s a movie). Thanks for the heads up! I will definitely look it up.
I hope you’re having a great Sunday also, my friend. 
Cheers!
Hi Deeone,
I think as I’ve gotten older, I’ve become more patient. I’ve realized that things done in haste, without much thought, usually don’t turn out well.
I am an Analyst in my day job, and I’ve always had an analytical mind. I analyze almost everything! In order to do that properly, it really takes time. So impatience hasn’t been much of an issue for me.
Comparing ourselves to others definitely doesn’t help. We do not know what trials and tribulations others have gone through on their journey, so comparisons often are not valid.
It’s good to read your change in outlook and your new found relationship with patience. Keep up the good work.
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Hi Jamella,
I would like to say that with age we should always see growth in the area of patience, but we both know that age doesn’t always bring wisdom to us just because we had another birthday.
However, I’m glad to hear that you’ve gathered the wisdom as you’ve gotten older.
An Analyst, huh? My partner is a Finance Analyst as well, so I definitely know that patience is required in your field. I’ve heard my share of horror stories about people who tried to take shortcuts, and who also paid the price because of the attempt.
You nailed it on the head with comparisons to others… I imagine it being like, picking up a book and assuming we know what it’s about simply because the cover looked familiar. We have to know the story of other people before we can compare ourselves to them… this one is turning into one of my most valuable lessons in my life.
Thanks for the great contribution to the post, my friend. As well as for the compliment. I really appreciate them both.
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Hi Deeone
This was a great post and I was very inspired by it. I have been grappling with this issue particularly as of late. Lack of patience is probably one of the biggest barriers to getting what we want in life. We want everything yesterday. For me, the ideas of patience and faith definitely tie together. When my faith is strong I have greater patience as I wait for the things I want to manifest. When my faith is lacking, I find my patience is as well. I have been making some significant energy shifts as of late and it seems that this can intensify the negative feelings more when they crop up and this issue in particular is really trying but I am doing my best to combat it.
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Hey Kelli,
I’m so pleased that you enjoyed this article and that it has inspired you, my friend. I think patience is one of those things that comes with time for those that seek it most. Whenever we set out to accomplish something in life it’s easy to get discouraged when things don’t happen in our timing, and it takes a willingness to get patience by seeing what we want through to the end. I think that’s where our patience is developed the most.
You make a great point about patience and faith. Both I think require the other to activate. So a person can’t say that they have patience without faith, nor does faith exist without patience. Since faith requires us to see things that aren’t visible, and believe in things that haven’t yet become tangible; we operate in both until what we want comes to fruition.
Outstanding thoughts shared here, Kelli! Thanks for sharing them here. It’s truly always a pleasure to hear from you, my dear.
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Dear Deeone,
What an elusive subject to most. I think you did a fine job expressing some helpful perspectives on the matter.
When I think of patience, Nelson Mandela comes into my mind.
I think that anyone who knows anything about Mr. Mandela knows that this man is the living embodiment of what kinds of amazing things may come even when mass stretches of time appeared to be nothing short of bleak.
I used to credit myself with being very impatient, but over the past 8 years or so I have noticed a huge shift in myself due to little changes I have been willing to make (and KEEP), while constantly observing myself so that I may make adjustments as I felt they needed to be made.
I can’t say I’m a perfect example of patience, but I can say that life has given me opportunities to exercise my patience and grow it. I believe that this happened because I asked for these lessons to grow. We must be open to the growth process in order to recognize the opportunities we are constantly given to LIVE through them.
Thanks for the wonderful ideas on this subject!
Cat Alexandra
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Hi Cat Alexandra,
It’s great to see you here. I’m also delighted to know that you enjoyed the post.
I think you chose an excellent example of a person who displayed patience throughout his life. Nelson Mandela embodied patience, and I think even made it look simple to obtain.
Although, from your comment here, we both know patience does not come to us easily.
I also thought your inclusion of “asking for lessons to grow” great addition to this post as well. For many of us are constantly asking and seeking growth, wisdom, longevity in life, and wealth (to name a few things), but rarely do we ever consider what we are really asking; or do we consider what it will take in order for us to get those things.
I totally agree with you… whatever we seek in life we must stay open to the process to ensure we don’t miss out on it, if and when it arrives.
Great thoughts, my friend. Thanks for such an awesome contribution!
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Dear Deeone,
So glad you enjoyed my contribution to the discussion.
I try to be thoughtful and open when engaging, so I’m glad to have found a good partner to do that with!
Thanks for shining some light into the world. We need more and more of this, I’m fully persuaded!
Have a most fantastic week!
Cat
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Hey thanks a lot for that response, Cat! I really do appreciate it.
I totally agree with you a 101%! And yes, you most certainly do have a partner when it comes to good ole engaging convo. 
It’s the greatest part of blogging, exchanging ideas, thoughts, and opinions; while being subjected ever so often leaving with a brand new outlook or at the very least reflecting on the ones we already have.
It’s been a pleasure having you here at “RMT”.
I wish you a fantabulous week as well, my friend.
Hi Deeone,
Another great post and reminder about virtues and how something like patience is really needed to see your dreams to fruition.
It can be a daunting task … staying on course, AND having patience, but staying focused and not losing your cool is the best way to success, however you define it.
With all that being said, I too struggle with it, especially in this information rich online world. It can be a battle, but it will pay off, as you’ve so eloquently stated here.
Let it steep until until it’s ready to drink.
Sleep on it and make that call after some rumination.
Wait for the results to roll in over time.
Chew, ponder, meditate on it.
Hey, you know me. I’m all for getting out and doing, but some things certainly do require patience.
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Hey there Craig,
Great to see you, bro.
Thanks for checking out the post and dropping your feedback on it. I’m glad you enjoyed it.
You’re absolutely right on it being difficult sometimes to stay on course; especially when there are so many distractions jumping out at us everyday. The online world provides us with some awesome tools to help us achieve whatever we want in life, but it also can add impatience when we see others around us making strides.
My distraction in the past has been looking at how everyone else is doing it or what they aren’t doing. Thankfully I was able to nip that in the “but”.
So if or when I find myself saying, “But, so and so has done it, why can’t I” I quickly remind myself about this post and having patience.
I loved each of those descriptive lines about patience you shared. Those were awesome mate! My favorite has to be “Let it steep until until it’s ready to drink.” That’s gooooood!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this! It’s a great contribution to the conversation. Much appreciated!
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Hi Deeone,
So good to take a moment and read your blog again. Oh how I have missed it.
If you ever want to learn patience try designing a web app
Wow do those things take a ton of work, planning, and testing before you can even launch.
When it comes to gadgets and tech I’m so guilty of having no patience. I want them when they come out. My Kindle Fire, Xbox360, and countless other toys I got right on launch. Yet look how quickly these things go down in value. I think I payed close to $400 for my Xbox when that first came out, now they are easily under half that price.
Thankfully, I’m much more patient when it comes to people. I don’t think I could be successful if I blew up at the drop of a hat. I try to enjoy life and give people the benefit of the doubt. It’s not always the best way to approach life, but it’s what I’ve found works for me.
Great to read up and learn more from you Deeone.
Bryce
P.S. I’d really love to hear what you think of our new People Profiler web app. You should profile your partner and see what he thinks about it. I’d be curious to hear your thoughts.
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Hi Bryce,
It’s great to see you here, bud!
I don’t know about web apps, but designing websites are definitely a test of patience. Luckily, I’ve got a great friend that has helped me with this one. But when I had to do the first one, I was two shakes from pulling out hair from my head that’s not there.
I used to be a huge gamer myself, but when I left Virginia, I don’t know what happened. I haven’t touched a game system since 2006. Ouch! That’s been a longtime, huh? Maybe I should throw one on my Christmas list this year. I have asked for one in the past, but my partner said something about him never seeing me. Foolishness. Maybe there’s a little truth to that though.
I’m getting a lot better with my patience concerning people. Mainly because I’ve pretty much separated myself from those that try my patience the most. Now, that’s not to say that I’m not able to entertain them, I just do so whenever I know I want too. That works for me.
I’ll have to try the People Profiler out bud. It sounds like it would be interesting. Thanks for the heads up.
I hope all is well with you man. It’s always a pleasure to hear from you. Blessings.
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Ah Deeone. I used to have so much patience that I would spend my life perpetually waiting…for something, and then self-sabotaging it if it finally came. I’ve finally developed something in-between – although I can be a wee bit impatient these days especially when it comes to the speed of computers, how quickly things should get done according to my speed (of which many people can’t keep up with), and so on. Methinks that’s why I have been thinking about taking up meditating…I really need to find that in-between space I thought I was in.
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Good day Janine,
I hear you, my friend. I think this is the case for most. Patience is one of those things that insist upon us having to go through the hardships of life to really get more of it. And since none of us go after hardships looking for them, we have to wait even more for them to come to us. I’m beginning to see a pattern with patience, we usually have to wait until we’re taught to wait more. Funny thing, isn’t it?
Meditating is a great way to tap into it. I think this is the case mainly because we have to train ourselves to be still in the moment. Computers, internet, and all of the other technology we’ve been blessed to have, are “good evils.” While they are very useful and keep us better connected, they also give us more and more impatience as a society. I believe balance is the key. In everything we do there should be moderation… and patience is a good teacher of moderation. 
Thanks for you honest feedback on this, Janine. I truly appreciate your contribution to the post.
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Your welcome Deeone.
{I went to sleep listening to a deep relaxation meditation podcast last night – and woke up feeling energised!}
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That’s what I love to hear! I totally can relate to that. I’ve gotten myself hooked to Pandora’s Relaxation station. I listen to it while I’m writing these days. It is so completely soothing! I love it! I’m hope the energy has held up for you. Cheers, Janine!
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Allow me to get philosophical real quick
There’s a fine line, at least in my opinion, between being patient and “wanting something now”. On one hand, being patient will allow you to slow down and see everything before making a decision. On the other hand, being too patient can sometimes go against you. If you slow down too much opportunity may come and go; sometimes you have to be quick and jump on opportunity.
But it all depends on your goals.
Good topic Dee, one that everyone struggles with.
Peace!
~Jeremy
Hey there Jeremy! Great to see you here bud!
That’s a great point man! I can certainly relate to what you’ve said here. Much like I mentioned to Janine in my response to her comment, this is exactly what I meant by knowing moderation when it comes to patience.
We can apply too much patience, and like you said, miss the opportunity that the Universe has provided to us. Not acting right away when the time was meant to be acted upon. I’ve done this myself. I kept waiting for the right time, and didn’t listen to my gut or pay attention to the signs that were telling me to “Act now!”
We must learn to hear that inner voice within us. If not, we could make matters harder on ourselves than they normally would’ve worked out. It definitely depends on the goal though.
Thanks for bringing that point to the discussion man. It’s definitely something that needs to be considered when dealing with patience.
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I love how you highlight the importance and difference between the terms. Sometimes too much patience can make us lose out on opportunities. Thanks for bringing that to our notice! You made me think!
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Oh my, I don’t know how I missed this, Hajra… but please accept my sincerest apologies!
Now, I must go through all of my post and see how many other comments have slipped past me. I’m usually really good at catching them as you know.
I’m glad that this conversation gave you something to think about though. It’s (patience) truly something that I’ve come to believe that we all need as much as we can, but something that we also must know how much to apply.
Thanks for your great feedback as always! 
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Don’t apologize. I chopped off your fingers and didn’t say sorry… we are even!
We do miss out comments here and there… no problem!
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Hey Deeone! I missed your posts! Why?
I am the walking example of the most unpatient person around. Though I believe things will happen at their own course and have the perfect time to happen; I just feel that I have waited too long for some things. So when it comes to getting things done I feel I need to do them right now and right then.
For example, even for the smallest things – like I spent two days offline and now have over 200 emails and I just realized I spent the last 3 hours sorting them because I have this urgency to finish the whole thing off. And the worst part is that I feel the need to do things properly. So the lack of patience has made me do funny things.
But yes, in other areas I feel the need to wait and sometimes the need to wait is painful and too prolonged but yes, I feel some things happen when the time is right!
Did I just manage to confuse you?
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Hi Hajra,
You didn’t confuse me at all, my friend. I understand perfectly what you mean. I can truly relate. I actually suck at sorting my emails… if I were to tell you how many are in my Gmail right now; you might find pleasure in the 200 you have had to sort through.
However, I don’t let it bug me to much. We’re human after all, and sometimes we can’t do everything, all the time, when we want to do it, in the time frame we want to do it in. That’s where I believe a little leeway comes into play for us. To me, patience is knowing when to give ourselves a break, and ease up on what we want to happen.
Everything, and I do mean everything, happens in it’s own timing. And not a moment sooner. So take a deep breath, and realize that you’re doing exactly what you need to be doing at this very moment.
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Hi Deeone,
Great opening I must say. “Patience and I have always had a peculiar kind of a relationship.” If you only knew, it took me 30 years to learn how to control myself. LOL. I think that I finally got it when I understood that an idea or a wish is like a seed. No matter how bad and how fast I want it I should never forget, A seed needs water, sun and time. AND… It depends on what seeds I want to sow, what time of year it is, whether there’s room in the … Before sowing the seeds, you need to prepare the ground. Well… you got the point
Conclusion… Idea ¬¬+ Patience + Action = Success (or beautiful flowers)
Thank you for this awesome post.
Daniel
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Good Day Daniel,
You enjoyed the opening line, eh? That’s too funny.
Funny thing patience, isn’t it? It seems to come to us with age, and I guess that’s only because by the time we reach a certain age we’ve would have had to deal with so much that in turn has given us a little more patience; then we had when we were younger.
Being a lover of gardening though, I can certainly appreciate your analogy with the seed and patience. You’re absolutely on point with it too. Some seeds take a bit longer to develop than others. Like most things we have to face in life, different things take different calibers of time to take shape and form.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this man… It’s always a pleasure to hear from you.
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Patience has always been a challenge for me, of course i become patient, but this happens because i have no other options:)
very nice post Deeone
I totally understand that, Farouk. Sometimes all the other options are being withheld just to show us patience. We learn to wait when we have nothing else to turn too. Thanks bro… I’m glad you enjoyed the post.
I used to have very little patience…in fact I think there’s still a battle going on with me and patience. But having said that, I learned to be quite patient with a few things in my life and I feel I had to learn it the hard way. I admire people with lots of it, it can be a blessing and a curse. But one thing’s for sure: patience really is a virtue.
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Thank you for your honesty on this topic. I find that a lot of folks tend to like to say that they have more than they actually have; which I’ve never quite understood. It seems to me that when we’re honest with ourselves and with others, we tend to leave ourselves more room for improvements. That’s exactly what I pick up from your feedback – you leaving yourself room to improve. Thanks for sharing the awesomeness, my friend. Please feel free to come back anytime to share your thoughts and opinions. Cheers!
This is a necessary post, Deeone. I enjoyed it. Are you familiar with this tale:
A kid plants a seed one day, goes back to the garden the next day, expecting to see the stem already sprouting. To his surprise, the ground is just as he had left it a day before. 3 days pass by, and still nothing. He bends down and digs out the seed to see what had gone wrong: his impatience just got the best of him. Now, he has to start all over again.
Are you at all familiar with a tree in the far east called the chinese bamboo tree? It takes about 5 years to grow this tree. For the first 4 years of planting it, there will be absolutely no sign of a tree growing, but the grower has to keep watering and fertilizing the ground in which it is planted because by the 5th year- if the grower doesn’t stop the watering and fertilizing- the tree will start growing, and it will grow about 50 feet tall just in that 5th year.
Now, what do you suppose the people watching the grower watering- for 4 years- the ground showing nothing will say? They’ll probably criticize him, call him weird, call him insane, or tell him he is wasting his time. Of course, if the grower was impatient, he would easily quit on his goal.
I think patience and persistence are intertwined- they are siblings of the same parents. If we are patient and persistent, there is nothing we cannot achieve, become, or do.
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What a powerful comment, man! I hadn’t heard that tale before, but I must say it is very appropriate for this post. I am familiar with the Chinese bamboo tree though; I learned of it during some recent reading up on patience. It’s funny that you mentioned it in your feedback to the post.
What I loved most about your comment, Giles, is the questions you asked within it. The one where you asked, “…what do you suppose the people watching the grower watering- for 4 years- the ground showing nothing will say? Really hit home with me. I feel that I’m getting a lot of people not understanding why I’m “watering” and “nurturing” this site.
The thing is, we can’t be shaken and moved by what other people are saying about a vision that was given to us. In the same light, nor can we be moved by what other’s perceive of our actions. If we have a conviction and feel that we’re doing the right thing deep within our being; that conviction will make the patience and persistence worthwhile in the end.
I totally agree with you; patience and persistence are definitely siblings. They go hand in hand. No one can have one without having the other… well, they can, but the journey will totally be off balance.
I could literally go on and on with discussing your thoughts. It really moved me, and when I’m moved; I have to stop myself or pull back a bit.
Loved it though! Thank you so much for sharing that with me and my readers! Awesome message! I hope to chat with you soon. Cheers!