Patience and I have always had a peculiar kind of a relationship. I guess you can say, I’ve never really mastered the whole waiting thing.
I can recall on many instances growing up and attending the storefront church with my grandmother; where some of their favorite sermons had to do with patience. It was there that I would learn that patience is a virtue that we all should possess.
I, on the other hand, when it came to patience, used to relate a bit more with the 1989 hit song delivered by Queen, titled, “I Want It All”. “Yeah, yeah…I want it all, I want it all, I want it all, and I want it now!” Get my drift?
While I still love the song, my attitude towards patience has changed tremendously!
Now, I’m still not professing to be a master of having patience, but overtime I have come to understand that most of the things worth having in this life, arrive only after we’ve learned to have some patience.
Patience Defined and Why I need to Wait?
Dictionary.com gave this definition for patience, “The quality of being patient, as the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.”
Wow! Now, I see why it’s been a struggle for me all this time.
In a recent post titled, “Have a Little Patience”, my dear friend Chrysta Bairre over at Live Love Work, stated this that actually moved me when I read it. “When I lack patience in my life, I am more likely to make hasty decisions, to sacrifice my long term goals for short term gain, and to replace gratitude with impatience.”
This got me to thinking about my own relationship with patience… and yes, it’s been an “on again, off again type of a relationship” that’s constantly growing and flourishing.
I begin to think about how many things I had blocked from coming to fruition, because I failed to have a little patience. How often was I right at the cusp of success, but lost out on it because I failed to see whatever it was to the end? How many things in my life had I walked away from just because it didn’t happen when I thought it should have?
How many times had I been too angry, annoyed, complained, loss my temper, gotten irritated, and missed out on what could’ve been the best thing that ever happened to me; all because I didn’t want to wait for it to show up?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m certainly not crying over spilled milk here. I’ve actually grown some as far as patience is concerned.
I’ve come to know that it’s in the waiting room of life that we find patience. When life has thrown us curve ball after curve ball; we’re simply being given patience. Every hiccup, every lost, each downfall, and yes even when we go without what we want; the Universe is handing us a dose of patience and teaching us how to wait.
For the past eleven plus years, I’ve had some life experiences that have almost caused me to throw in every towel I had hanging. Some of them even had me thinking about ending this precious life of mine. It hasn’t been easy by far, but I’m grateful for each experience, good and bad alike.
The lessons my grandmother placed in me, helped me to always know that there is never a reason or need to throw in the towel; I simply needed to get new towels… which is just my way of saying, change my approach and perception about my life.
So that’s exactly what I’ve done. I got a brand new outlook about patience, because I’ve begun to make changes within me. Changes that have caused me to look at no one else but Deeone. When I stop comparing myself to others my patience began to grow.
Patience has also given me the courage to go after my dreams, and not get discouraged when it doesn’t happen as quickly as I’d like for it too. It’s patience that has taught me #9 of last weeks post, that I should never give up on what I want and who I want to become.
He who endures with patience is a conqueror. ~Latin Proverb
My Tip to Others On Waiting it Out
Where we often go wrong with patience is not allowing room for change in our plans. We want it to happen just how we play it out in our mind. Here’s a little secret that many of us don’t know. When we make concrete plans for our life, our lives and the Universe has a real “LMBO” moment on our account.
Now I’m not telling anyone not to have a plan of action. We should definitely know the vicinity of where we’d like to land in life. However, we should leave a little leeway just in case our method for getting there isn’t the one we thought it would be.
For I’ve come to believe that there are times when life is teaching us to wait, because it has something better for us than what we could have ever thought to plan for ourselves. And it takes patience to see and know that such is the case. That’s why we need patience.
Turning it over to you…
Are you an individual that could use a bit more patience? Or do you have a clear understanding that everything happens in it’s own timing?
What, if anything, would you like to share on the topic of patience and waiting?
I’d love to read you thoughts, feedback, and comments. Remember, your insights could assist someone else in their journey, so please feel free to share your thoughts and this post with others. Cheers and Blessings.