There may come a time when we may feel the need to get involved in the business or affairs of other people. I have been guilty of this myself from time to time. I learned a valuable life lesson awhile ago that helps me to just stay in my own lane. This is a post that I wrote several months ago on my first blog, The Kingskidd Report. I didn’t have half the readers that I have now. So I wanted to share this with those of you that may appreciate this article and/or wanted to share it with someone else who might be in need of reading it. I do hope to hear your feedback on the article I named, “Stay in Your Lane, Boo”. For even the readers I had back then thoroughly enjoyed this post… I hope each of you will as well.
There are certain people that get a kick out of being in other people’s affairs. It’s almost like they crave the attention of being the all knowing “Yoda” of the world. They have the quick fix to all of society’s problems, they are an all-knowing relationship coach, they can tell you how to improve your life, but for some reason or the other they can’t seem to get their own affairs in line, if their life depended on it. These are the individuals that I’m advising today to just “stay in your own lane.”
Anywhere you go you can find someone who has did this or done that better than anyone has ever done it or could ever do. They more often than not, want everyone to know that they have mastered this area in their lives. The only thing is they haven’t and the evidence can be seen throughout their life pages.
How is it, a single man or women who has been alone for far too long, think that they can give the best advice on how you should improve your relationship? “Seriously, you are giving relationship tips now?” Someone needs to stay in their lane, wouldn’t you say?!
The ones that really have me going here lately are those individuals who are just so sickened by the fact that there are talks about legalizing gay marriages and gay civil unions here in the states. These individuals are doing everything they can, to try and stop someone else from obtaining happiness; and they are feeling absolutely no remorse in doing so. Instead of owning up to their opinions they are running behind the Cross and seeking God to back their own ignorance and hatred. C’mon people, just stay in your lane!
I can recall back in the day when I was attending church on a regular basis… OK, it was sometime ago, but the point is that my pastor at the time used to tell us, “You have an entire year to mind your own business. You have six months to mind your own and six months to stay out of other people’s matters.” Although I was still in my teens when he used to make this statement, it has followed me throughout my life every since.
I have even gotten myself caught up from not staying in my lane a time or two, co-signing or adding my views to a conversation; that after it was said and done, the other person took what I had to say tearing it to shreds, and conveniently leaving out the things that they had added. It was in those instances that I learned swiftly to stay in my lane.
“Stay in your lane” is just another way of saying mind your own business, but for some it’s like really, really hard for them to do. Life isn’t complete unless they are meddling, the world might not turn unless they know everything there is to know about everything and everyone. And God forbid, if you decide that you aren’t releasing any information or if you pick and choose the information you release… then you might be in danger of being released yourself.
Well, today here’s some advice that I had to learn the hard way. If you too are one of these individuals, listen up. If you know a person that could use this post or knows someone that knows someone, then please share it; send it; hell, retweet it if you must. This is something everyone should at least have in the back corners of their minds, and reach back for when the situation presents itself.
Butt out! Now, I am not naïve to think that everyone has this problem. There are plenty that know very well how to mind their own business, but for those who don’t have the practice mastered… this is the first rule of staying in your own lane… BUTT OUT! Leave other people’s matters to those other people. I guarantee when the dust falls and fingers are starting to be pointed at you, you would have wished you did. So get a head start on it, eh!
Why am I butting in? This is the first question after the first rule that an individual should ask themselves when they find themselves sweeping around another person’s front stoop. Why does this bother me so much that I need to add my .02 cents to it? Continue that with, “Will the world still turn if I don’t get involved?” The answer to that is, absolutely. The world will go on if we decide consciously to mind our own business.
Let it be. If you asked yourself the first question, Why am I butting in; and the answer you honestly gave is “it has nothing to do with me”… then slowly turn around, being sure not to draw attention to yourself, and walk away. If someone else just insist on informing you of an issue that they heard through the grapevine; it would probably be best for you to leave your views of it in that secret chest in your mind. Unless the person being discussed actually asks you for your opinion or view; should it be offered at any time. If they ask, then obviously they wanted to know… let them have it. It was probably killing you anyway to hold it all in.
Become a ghost of the conversation. It’s almost as though you are there… but not really. Completely blank out to what’s being discussed. If you don’t know anything, then you can’t comment on anything. You might even get asked, “Are you paying attention to me?” It’s ok to answer honestly… “Nope! Releasing Me Today told me to completely block you out” The less information you have on the subject at hand, the more you can become “ghost” on the issue at hand.
If you’ve done all of these and you still find yourself a part of a conversation that has absolutely nothing to do with you then simply stay in your lane. Leave the matter to those it concerns. I guarantee you’ll thank yourself later for doing so.
The benefits of staying in your lane…
1) No one will ever be able to say that you said this or that.
2) You’ll avoid an issue of the person being discussed, going “postal” on YOU.
3) You might even make an acquaintance of the individual that’s being discussed, and later find out that everything was a big misunderstanding or a rumor.
The consequences of staying in your lane…
1) You may become a tab bit unpopular with the masses, which is totally ok.
2) You won’t be in the “know”, which is totally ok, as well.
3) You might find yourself alone for awhile… but don’t fret on that too much either, the door for better individuals will open. Doors and people more in your lane.
Not minding our own business has many benefits and consequences, before we consider taking part in other people’s matters; we should always consider the price that we will ultimately pay. It’s certainly worth noting, eh?!
How important do you think staying in one’s own lane matters? Is it about skill? Or is it just being a meddler and keeping stuff going? Have you any personal experiences to share on the topic?
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May you release those who won’t Stay in their lane, and Master your days ahead.