This is the Finale of the series, “It’s not the end, Butterfly”. It has been three of my favorite blog post to have added to my writing collections. Many of you have reached out to me beyond the website, and I cannot thank each of you enough for your motivational, touching, and sincerely heartfelt messages. I appreciate everyone of you for letting me know just how much this series has helped you through your own metamorphosis stage. It’s because of some of your feedback that I felt the finale was very much needed and I do hope you enjoy and share your feelings on this post as well.
You have no idea how much each of you have motivated and moved me to continue doing what I am doing and to do all that I can to take Releasing Me Today and myself to the next level in my writing career. If you haven’t read the first two post I would recommend you touching on those before you proceed on. You can find it by clicking on Caterpillar and Butterfly. Caterpillar is part one, and Butterfly is the second part of the series :) So, without further ado ladies and gents, The Finale to “It’s Not the End, Butterfly!”series, Own Your Butterfly Wings! Enjoy!
"If you want to fly, you have to flap your own wings!" ~Claire Williams
“If you want to Fly, you have to flap your own wings!” ~Claire Williams
Owning My Butterfly Wings
In the finale of my very first series that I’ve ever written, that has seemed to have helped a few of you with your own “butterfly life cycle“; I will be sharing a few more key pointers that helped me to own my butterfly wings.
I will be sharing how I went about taking my power back, and making the first steps towards going after my dream of becoming a published writer. No, I’m not a published writer just yet, but that’s the first thing one must do as a butterfly; have the confidence to claim those wings.
Before I get into detail about those pointers, I would like to share with you all the realizations that were unveiled during the writing of this series. This series has been an eye opener for me, shedding a light on what I need to be placing most of my focus into. Owning my wings would be to complete my first book. I know that when I started Releasing Me Today, I said that I would include a section on this website called Releasing My Story, and there I would write my book. Well, one of the things that owning your butterfly wings consist of is allowing for your own personal growth; I’ve grown and continually am doing so. I am in a place in my life where I am ready to spread my wings and allow the wind to take me where ever it sees fit to take me.
I know now more than ever that I’m capable of doing what I really want, mainly because I’ve started three blogs, have filled them with content, and have seen over the last several months an increase in my self-motivation, determination, confidence, and persistence of going after what I want in life.
I will continue to blog sharing with you all the the lessons in my life pages, but I will be cutting my time that I post from three days a week to maybe one or two. I’m not exactly sure of the frequency, because my goal is to put more time in the writing of my book.
In a future post, I also will share with you the details of how I plan to go about writing this book, my writing schedule, and the goal date I will set to finish it. If you aren’t able to tell throughout this post thus far, I’m really excited about what’s about to take place here with myself and with Releasing Me Today.
Now, let me share with you what had to take place within me in order for me to own my butterfly wings. 
Owning Your Butterfly Wings
One of the first steps that needed to take place was to own up to the choices and decisions I had made in my life. No one was responsible for where I found myself in life; so that meant I had to stop trying to point the blame at my parents, even though they were in no way the greatest parents. They were mine though. There had to be a reason for that, I mean since my Creator saw fit to give me to them, he also had to have a plan behind doing so. Don’t you think?
I had to stop blaming, my family, not having many friends, the world… I just had to stop pointing the blame. And seriously lose the victim mentality altogether. In order for you to own your butterfly wings, you’ll have to do the same. It’s no one else’s fault where you are in life. You are there because of decisions made, and because it’s where you are meant to be in this very moment in your life pages.
Once I took ownership of my life, taking responsibility of where I was in my life, it was like I had peeled off a layer of that soft skin that the caterpillar lost in it’s first Molting Stage. Everything became clearer to me than it had ever came in my life. It was only when I was able to accept responsibility of what I had allowed to take place in my life, was I then able to realize that the end was no where in sight. As a matter of fact, at this point in my life I have only begun to turn the pages.
I’ll tell you something else that happened when this taking ownership of my life thing took place, I became very aware of the energy that I was allowing other people to bring and lay on my doorstep, and then leave it there for me to deal with by myself. I also took a closer look at the energy that I myself was possessing as well. In doing this, I came to the conclusion that something within me had to change, a metamorphosis needed to take place.
Metamorphosis From Negative to Positive Energy
The change that I saw that was very much needed to take place, needed to begin within me, no one else. I became very much aware that I couldn’t change other people and how they went about with their life practices. I could however change myself and what I allowed other people to bring into my life.
I knew that I had to change my ideas and thoughts about the world around me. I also knew that this change that needed to take place wasn’t going to be at all easy for me to do alone. I have said many times that I would do “A,B,C,” only to end up not even touching “A” at all. So I needed something physically tangible to remind me of the vows that I would make to myself.
So I pulled out a piece of paper and a magic mark and begin to write. I wrote down a list of 10 things that needed to take place in my life, ASAP! I would hold myself accountable daily to carry those practices out, and where I wasn’t able to hold myself accountable I asked my partner to do it for me. He was more than happy to do so; I’m sure you can imagine his glee. You may need to do the same, inform a spouse, close friend, or family member to hold you accountable for these changes. If you don’t have anyone in mind but know that you need someone to do so, contact me, I’ll be glad to be of assistance to you.
Like me, you might also find it helpful to forgive yourself when you slip up and forget to do one of these awesome key pointers. Simply start over and do your very best next go around.
Remember: These are to be practiced daily in order to be proven most effective. If you don’t really care for a quote I posted, a website I’ve listed or something on the list doesn’t apply to you directly: than you can simply find your own and make the necessary changes to the list. It’s not important what’s on the list, what is important is that you build your confidence in yourself and become productive in going after what you want. This exercise was simply a tool that I used to get out of my rut. Whatever you choose to do, I am certain the results will be remarkable.
Every single day I felt myself changing from the inside out, and I’m sure you’ll feel the same way as well. Here is what I came up with that has turned my life completely around, helped me with releasing some things, and had me fluttering my new butterfly wings! Write them down and practice at perfecting them in your life and I assure you that you will see a changes within yourself in no time.
10 Keys That Will Change Your Life
- Change your conversations. I was one of those types that could pull the “cables” (the 411, information, code name A.K.A. Gossip) from anyone. It was actually easy for me to do, I guess I have the personality that make people want to share all their juicy problems with me… or better yet someone else’s problems and their solutions to another person’s dilemma. What I didn’t take into consideration though, is that when I allow this type of garbage into my spirit, I opened the door to my own issues and guilt for participating in such foolishness. Helping someone with their own personal problems is something totally different, than helping to talk about someone else’s issues without that person being present. And whether we believe it to be true or not, it affects the energy of each individual that chooses to practice in such social realms.
- Who do you allow to speak into your life? I wrote a post a couple weeks ago titled, “Speaking Life Into Your Situation“. In this post I discussed how important it is to have someone, and to be that someone that speaks life into other people. It’s easy to get into the habit of allowing people to drop their energy off on you. Since we’re not always aware of the energy that people carry with them, we need to get into the habit of figuring out what type of energy a person is bringing into your space. They certainly won’t tell you… a lot of times they aren’t even aware of the energy that they possess. Here’s one of the main methods I’ve found to be the most accurate in reading a person’s energy; it’s one question that if answered honestly you’ll know whether the individual in question needs to be in your life or not. The Question: How does this individual make you feel whenever they are in contact with you? If the answer is anything other than positive you may want to reconsider that relationship’s necessity in your life.
- Surround yourself with positive affirming energy. By any means necessary… I mean whatever it takes, choose things that make you feel good about yourself and your life. Read inspirational quotes daily, positive affirmations, watch positive programs on television (I strongly recommend OWN. Oprah’s new network. The energy on that station will have you feeling like you can tackle anything that comes in your life), embrace and surround yourself with positive people. These aren’t life practices that you can do on your own without any outside help. You’re going to need some reinforcement. Read positive books, and visit positive websites. If you make it a daily thing to read Releasing Me Today, that’s AWESOME! I’m here for you and I want to see you embrace your best life ever. It might not be enough though, so here is a list of 5 more that I would recommend as well that are sure to keep performing at your best.• Aha – Now!By: Harleena Singh
• The Positive Blog By: Henrik Edberg
• My Rivendell By: Bonnie Copeland
• Joanne Cipressi – Life Coach By: Joanne Cipressi
• Social 2 Cents By: Jeremy Brown
There are many other’s if you need help finding them, let me know. I’ll be more than happy to give you a few more. - Accept where you are in life, where ever it may be, and know that it’s only temporary. Every aspect of your life pages, decisions and choices made, life practices, habits… everything really; has bought you to this place in your life. Knowing that any changes wished to be made to the current situation has to be made by you. Take action today, in order to make changes to tomorrow. It would be also wise to not be so hard on yourself if the changes that you seek don’t happen overnight. ”Don’t count every hour in the day, make every hour in the day count.”
- Be constantly found moving forward in your personal growth. By using your past only to grow as a better person in your present, you accept the fact that there are somethings that happened in it that weren’t meant for you to understand. So don’t even try to. Use the things in your past only to evoke personal growth, anything other than personal growth or sharing experiences to help others; the past should not even thought about being revisited. In other words, if in the past you only hold contempt and bad memories; forgive yourself, those involved and move on.
- Release yourself from the victim mentality, and stop allowing those who possess the victim mentality into your life. I ran across a blog post recently that helped me with this inconsistency that sometimes become a problem for me, written by Henrick Edberg and titled, “How to Break Out of a Victim Mentality: 7 Powerful Tips“. In this article, Hendrick gives some awesome tips on how to go about breaking free of the Victim Mentality. I recommend you read this article, if you or someone you know is quick to play the victim card. It’s not an attractive quality, so ridding of it will help you to avoid from believing the end is near.
- Stay open to the changes of life. Life is full of them and they’re bound to happen to even you. If you attempt to guard yourself from the unexpected things that will arise, you’ll find yourself highly disappointed whenever they do happen to show up.
- See the good in life, people, and yourself. Even though the world is filled with negativity, drama, and evil throughout. There are a lot of good things and people on this planet that we live on. You have to see them and magnify them whenever humanely possible.
- Recondition what you say and think. This is one of the most important of the keys! The power of what we say and what we think about is incredibly influential in what happens in our lives. I have made it a practice to eliminate some words totally out of my vocabulary all together. In this eBook that I share here, Kyle Edington shares with us “7 Words to Eliminate from Your Vocabulary for Faster Success“, I recommend checking it out. I found this to to be very helpful to me in changing how I speak about my dreams. It’s amazing how things begin to change for the human psyche once the changes in the way we communicate and think begin to take place.
- This is a biggie, so listen up! Allow NO ONE to make you feel guilty of the blessings that will take place in your life. To often we try to brush off or downplay the blessings that we have in our lives, because we don’t want other’s to think that we are trying to be or do better. I’ve learned that this is a big mistake in our life practices. We shouldn’t boast and brag about our blessings; No, that’s not what I’m saying at all. We should be thankful for them, know from where we got them, give honor to the One that blessed us to have them, and celebrate the blessings that were given. If we don’t, they’ll simply be taken away and given to someone who will appreciate them.
I have followed each of these key pointers every since the starting of this blog. The blessings that have happened for me have been mind blowing. I see life totally different than I did last year this time. And I believe that it’s all because I changed the way I look at the world around me and I owned my butterfly wings.
Thank each of you for taking the time to read this series. I hope you have enjoyed the “It’s Not the End, Butterfly!” Series as much as I’ve truly enjoyed writing it!
As usual, I would love to hear your feed back about what you’ve read here. So please share your thoughts and comments with me about what you’ve read.
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May you find your Release and Master the day’s ahead!
Can you relate to this series? Have you started the journey of owning your butterfly wings? What do you think about the changes that will take place here with Releasing My Story? Share your Release with me.
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Love your series Deeone!
Thanks so much for your kindness by mentioning my blog in your post- I am indeed humbled. If I can be of any help to anyone- the purpose of creating the blogs would have been achieved. However, I am still nowhere near the kind of self-releasing that you do Deeone- which is purely from the core of your heart- that makes you so special for who and what you are!
Your metamorphosis have been so visible and thanks so much for sharing it with all of us- as we feel inspired and learn so much from you as well. I simply love the ten factors that can change your life- couldn’t add more to what you have already written- they sure do cover up everything up so well
Thanks so much for your awesomeness once again
Good day to you, Harleena!
I thank you for checking out this post, you got to it before I could even tell you that I had mentioned your site. That’s Awesome, Chica!
Thank you for that, and for your support.
It has truly been a rewarding experience to share my butterfly experience, I’m just glad that it has been so well received. It has opened up my eyes to so many areas in my life that was in need of improvement. I’m just glad that my heart and mind was open to those changes that needed to take place within me.
Your site is fully releasing, my friend. It has also helped me to achieve the place in my life that I’ve been able to reach. I am blessed to have met such a kind spirited individual such as yourself, and I know that whomever decide to get to know you also, will feel the exact same way. I truly appreciate our friendship. I seek for it to grow and develop even more than it has already.
Thank you so much for your kind remarks about this post and for sharing with me your awesomeness as well. I’m seeking to only get better as this journey continues, and I’m perfectly aware this won’t happen unless I am particular about the connections I make along the way.
I hope this post helps many who are in their caterpillar experience, and that they use the sites and tips I have listed here.
It’s always a pleasure to hear from you, my friend. I hope you are having an amazing week! And I wish you all the best.
Deeone you’ve done it again. I’ve got tears, the kind that come from happiness though.
First, thank you so much my friend for including me in your post. You sure know how to make hearts smile don’t you?
Second. Whoohooo! (I hope you can hear me shouting!) I am soooo happy that you are going to be taking time to fulfill your dream of writing that book. There are souls who are hungry for your message and story. The passion and poetry you write with needs to be shared. I can’t wait to see you with your own show on OWN
Oh and by the way “Owning my Wings” sounds like a great title to consider.
Deeone I hope you don’t mind me taking the leap to say I think we may be kindred souls. Our life stories are travelling similiar paths and I’m grateful for those paths crossing. You are simply fabulous.
The struggles and changes you have gone through in your life do happen for a reason. One we cannot often see while in the midst of the event. By sharing your story you are not only brave, but following your heart and this is incredible and so moving. Your message and your story is going to change lives. Your purpose is a beautiful and grand one. In fact, I can already tell by the comments and from experience that you have touched many lives in a big and positive way which is amazing!
Your list of ways to change your life is exactly bang on! I love love LOVE every point and have been doing most of these myself. For me the hardest one is the last one. I have been learning the deeper lessons about gratitude and how powerful it is in changing your life over the last two years. You are so right that it is different from being boastful and it’s important to get that out there.
Your other point about forgiving yourself if you slip up is vital. I think people expect perfection from themselves where they would never expect it from others. A slip up does not mean it’s over! It means we stand up, dust ourselves off and get going again.
I can’t wait to see where your beautiful soul takes you as you spread those wings. In fact, the world is waiting for you.
xoxo Keep on being fabulous Deeone!
Bonnie, I absolutely love your comments.
It’s not only because you love my work (that is a bonus) 
, but also because I read the genuine heart that you share in every word as well. I too, enjoy reading words with meaning and heart. That touch the spirit as well as the heart and soul. I enjoy writing about things that impact life practices, and enjoy reading those as well. You’re comments and your writings do that for me. It has been a pleasure to be connected with you.
Like I said on “The Book”, I get a kick out of making hearts smile, it truly does something wonderful for my own spirit. I know that whatever goodness that I send out comes back to me. Now, that’s not the reason why I do what I do. I truly love the feeling that comes with making other’s feel good. It’s a gift I have I think. Some people make it easier to do than others, and you my friend make it extremely easy to do.
I am syked that you’re as excited as I am about the book. We chatted a couple of days ago about signs and confirmations and this series has truly been confirmation that I really need to make the book happen. Not that I’m wasting time on my website, because I’m learning tons and getting my name out in the writing industry; not to mention, Releasing Me Today has it’s purpose as well. Yet, I can’t help but feel that I needed to take the book more seriously. I feel a fire or something unexplainable within in me, pushing me to act and do what I need to do to promote my writing. Now… that Title you mentioned, that is like FIRE!! Meaning that’s HOT! I love that! And I’d love it even more if that were to happen. O-M-G! That would be a serious Butterfly Moment!
I feel you about the kindred souls as well. It happens to people all of the time. They don’t know why they click so well with the other, but it’s almost like they’ve been friends since the beginning. I totally understand and agree with you that we are kindred souls. There are a few bloggers, that I have such a connection with that I question if we were somehow connected in another life or something. The connection is almost scary.
However, I am super glad that we have been connected. I am blessed to have such a phenomenal young lady in my corner. I don’t take it lightly and I know that there is a reason for it.
I’ve noticed a lot of close people in my life vanish, folks that have been there for years… I don’t know what’s going on there, but it’s not the same as it used to be. They don’t really call or visit me, and I found myself being the only one doing the calling and the visiting.
That has since come to a screeching halt. I pumped the brakes a bit, and said to myself that if they really wanted to be bothered, they’d reached out to me the same way I’ve been doing. They didn’t or haven’t yet. So then I started feeling bad about what was happening, and started going around them every now and then. They still didn’t change at all. Still no visit. Still no call. And they would only call to talk about the drama, partying, or to talk about themselves; it left me to think, what do people see me as? I felt really used, and that’s not a good feeling at all.
At this point, I get absolutely no phone calls and no visits. None! It was beginning to bother me, but then a little “whisper” inside of me, showed me those people that were online and offline that HAVE been there and have supported me; they were bought into my life for a reason. And then I thought about all of the accomplishments I’ve managed to get done with my time away from those in my “comforts zone”. So now I see it as a blessing in disguise. Maybe they’ll come back around, maybe they won’t; I can’t sit around and stress out about it, life must simply go on. And I must go on with my life, my goals, and dreams. I must remain focus.
I don’t know why I said all of that, but I’ve started this message three times, and this time I’m not starting over, so it’ll have to stay there.
I really appreciate your feed back on this post, Bonnie. I’m glad that you didn’t mind me adding your site to this post as well. Thanks for that. You have once again, encouraged me, inspired me, and given me a smile to make it through my day. So thank you dearly for that, Chica. I really appreciate it and you.
Wishing you all the best!
Stay Fab and most Awesome, Chica!
Your friend in Atlanta.
I love you little taller than me brother!
Hey there Big sister!
Thank you and Welcome to the comments of the Release!
You have no idea how much your comment has made my day! Thank you so much for that. I love you as well, more than you’ll ever know…. “little taller than me…”
You are too funny! I loved it though. 
Deeone,
Wow! You are taking some brave and bold steps Deeone! Very, very impressed I am with your openness and for reaching for your dreams. This article had me smiling the whole way through because I can see and feel you taking ownership of your life. You are doing it and I know you must feel so good about it. It is so refreshing, isnt it?
You really have learned and experienced so much and I know that many people are going to benefit from your sharing. Those 10 keys that you shared are necessary for living a WOW life.
I am looking forward to reading more from you. AND thanks so much for allowing me to inspire you and for mentioning my blog to your readers. That really does mean so much to me.
I love when I meet people where we both can inspire each other…and you are one.
Hugs!
Thanks for checking out the post, Joanne!
It truly means the world to me!
I think the more I write, the more I release my old self, and let me tell you… it’s definitely time for the old me to be released! Life has been a journey for me, that hasn’t always made a lot of sense. It’s been downright confusing at times. Yet, I’m coming to the point in my life where I have somewhat of an understanding that it all ties together, somehow, someway; it begins to make sense. Surrounding myself with positive peeps, like yourself online and offline, has proven to be a great experience for me to tap into my unlimited potential. And yes indeed, it is SO refreshing!
It almost feels as though this website for me was meant to be. I have a few people to thank for it, because had they not challenged me, believed in me, and supported me; there simply would not be any Releasing Me Today. So, I’m very grateful to be where I am today in my life. I’m loving the inspiration and motivation I’m feeling that just by chance happens to be inspiring others as well. I couldn’t ask for much more. And what I could ask for, I think it’s not far off from me.
I’m glad you were OK with me sharing your site here. Like you I love when I meet people that we are able to inspire one another as well. I like to think of that as iron sharpening iron.
Thank you for sharpening me, my friend. I can only hope that I do the same.
It’s always a pleasure to hear from you.
Smooches.
Greetings: there is SO much that I can say about this ~wonderful~ post, but I just want to touch on your last point. -There are many people who are afraid to go after their dreams not because they’re afraid to fail, but they’re afraid that they’ll be successful and would then be guilty that they’ve reached success when others in their family or circle of friends have not. This is a form of self-sabotage that really needs to end! Just think if Steve Jobs or Oprah would have had this type of mentality–we never would have known their greatness! I know that I definitely used to carry this way of thinking too, but not anymore. I will have no guilt of my beginnings, my progress, or my success when I reach it, and neither should you!! Go ahead and soar on! I’m so proud and happy for you!
Hey there Melisa!
Thank you for that, sweety! I see that you can relate where other’s might not be able too. And on this journey that’s something that we all need to feel, someone who can relate. Most of my readers can relate to something, at least one of the points I have laid out here, but you have touched on the one that has kept me back the most. I have so often avoided my own success because it was so looked down upon or used against the other’s in my family.
Growing up, I noticed how my mother was the “black sheep” of the family, and on top of that I felt that she became so because of her having me. Those that became successful and those who thought they were more successful never allowed her to forget her past. It’s not that they kept reminding her vocally of what she had done, but no one ever forgave her either. It’s my belief that the guilt and the shame of what she did, actually caused the cancer and ultimately her death.
If it makes any sense at all, (it doesn’t to me much more now) but I never really had the motivation of becoming successful because I thought that I would have to carry the guilt of being the burden carrier of what my mother and father did. Amazing the things we come up with in our minds that ultimately keep us from advancing in life. I truly had to face my demons and give myself permission to go for what I want out of life. I certainly won’t allow my family or circle of friends anymore to inadvertently deter me from that success, because they don’t feel it’s my place to have that success; due to something that my mother and father did over thirty some years ago.
However, it did keep me from it in the past. And you’re absolutely right, it’s something that happens all of the time in certain communities. This is another reason that I started, Releasing Me Today; I’m releasing myself from all of the expectations, traditions, mentalities, labels, and everything else that was handed to me and told to me that I had to carry around with me. The devil is a liar! I’m not carrying those things any longer. Now, if those who told me desire to carry them around, then by all means, have at it! But, I’m letting it go. I’m not mad, angry, or bitter, about the situation; as a matter of fact, I’ve never been happier!
I see that you can totally relate to where I am right now. It feels good, doesn’t it? To release yourself from those chains of people’s issues. Man, Freedom ROCKS!!
Thank you so much for your inspirational, motivational, supportive, and oh so kind comment! I really appreciate it, love. And hey, I’m so very proud of you as well.
Rock on, Chica!!
Congratulations Deeone for making it this far.
You have really learned some valuable lessons and now are able to share with us some of the issues that hold a lot of people back. Some of this several years ago I would have never known I was doing. I wasn’t conscious of it that is.
Ah that Maya saying again… Yep, just do better and you are. You are so sweet to share with us the actual steps you have taken and what is bringing you through this. I applaud you for doing this and I have no doubt you are a much better person because of it.
Congratulations on writing that book. You may just be at the beginning but it’s the best place to start. I have no doubt you will accomplish this as well. Can’t wait to hear of your progress.
Like everyone has already said, thank you for sharing this series with us. I know it meant a lot to you but we all enjoyed reading it so much. You are a fabulous teacher Deeone!
~Adrienne
Thank you so much for that, Adrienne!
The lessons have certainly come with a price, but most of them usually do, don’t they?
I wish I had known you before I went through those lessons, so that you could have given me a little heads up. 
However, I know some of the things we have to learn in life we must learn them on our own. There are some lessons that take a little longer than other’s for us to grasp them, but if we keep failing the test, we simply have to keep taking that test over. Those to me are the most valuable lessons.
I am really honored that you read this for me. I cannot tell you how much that means to me. Although I’ve shared somethings that I was really afraid to share, in the end, it actually helped me more than I really imagined that it would. That was rewarding for me, but the most rewarding part has been the help that other’s have said it gave to them. That’s the part that really motivated me to proceed with the book.
When I get through with that I will definitely be a brand new individual, I think. I anticipate the growth that writing the book will provide. This series has actually changed my feeling about how to go about writing it. I will definitely be seeking guidance from my “Help Provider”. I want it to be a help to people and not make them feel sorry for me and/or sympathy.
Thanks again for your kind remarks and for your support, my friend.
Now, it’s back to the writing board.
Have a most wonderful evening!
Wow Deeone,
I was blessed with some very good parents. I don’t know how I would have done if I had your life. It’s amazing how positive and uplifting you are coming from the background you have.
That’s why when you mentioned taking ownership of your life and no longer blaming others, I felt so proud and encouraged by your story.
I see too many people blame the challenges of their life on others. Yet, how come when we find success we are so quick to take all the credit ourselves?
You have an excellent perspective on life. Keep it up.
Maybe one day I will own my butterfly wings as well.
Bryce
Hey Bryce!
Man, I really appreciate your comment brother! Thank you for sharing your feelings about this post and my story. It motivates me to keep on the track that I’m on.
I tell you though, it wasn’t an easy place for me to get too. Nor did I get here all by my lonesome. I had people and surrounded myself with people that meant me well. I also avoided those that didn’t; which was a hard thing to do as well.
It took a lot of soul searching, and some very brave souls that weren’t afraid to tell me that I needed to get over myself. Then I had to realize that the energy that I was surrounding myself with wasn’t helping me at all to get over the issues that I had faced. If anything it was a constant reminder of the life I was trying so hard to conquer. It wasn’t until I stepped outside myself that I saw that my life wasn’t any worse than other’s, I was just choosing to make it so. Which is why I had to take a step back and really look at my story and what I wanted to present from my story.
I don’t want it to be a story of “Oh, poor wretched me.” Rather, I want my hardships to be seen, but I want them to come across as how I made it through them and became better because of them. I’m not regretful for the life I’ve had to live up to this point in my life pages, because had anything been different I wouldn’t have this story that I have to tell. I believe that my story will be able to help others through theirs, I simply have to dig deep and figure out just how I want to tell it. The book has begun, but on those days that it doesn’t come out the way that I want it too; I simply have to step back and do something else instead.
I’ve pointed blame, shifted blame, and threw blame, all my life; it changed nothing. My life was still mine and the feelings still remained. So, I figured I had to figure out another way to cope with it. This way works for me, releasing it helps me in ways that I could have never imagined.
I’m blessed because I made it through with very little scars to prove it. Although the scars I’ve had to attend with where on the inside, my outer body came out unharmed and stronger because of it. I’m grateful for that, bud! Releasing Me Today has truly been a Godsend. And the people that it has bought into my life, angels. You my friend are one of them. So thank you for that.
In my eyes, you’ve already managed to get those wings! Now, all you have to do is do like me, and own them. Spread them and start soaring!
Wow, Deeone! Everytime I visit your website, I am just so proud of and inspired by all the new and exciting growth that takes place. Congrats on publishing your first series and for making the commitment to get your book out. I’m really excited to follow your journey as I imagine it’s one I’ll soon be on as well. =)
I love how you remind us about accountability too! That’s something I need to implement in my life right now! =P Now that I think about it, I’ve never tried it with Roy before. It might be a cool exercise to help each other clarify our goals individually and together as well. =)
Thanks also for that powerful list of pointers! Creating, harnessing, and embracing positive energy is so important to me. It makes all the difference between an amazing day and the crummiest day ever. I really appreciate all these important reminders, friend! Thanks so much for setting a stellar example for me. =)
Hey there Samantha!
How are you, my friend?!
It has been an incredible journey to this place in my life, although I am no where close to being finished; I do know that I am open to whatever changes within myself that might present themselves to me in the future. Yet, for the first time in my life for as long as I can remember, I am finally at peace with my life and where it’s headed. I’ve accepted that everything that has happened within my life pages, good or bad, has made it abundantly clear that I am at this place in my life for a reason; I also know or believe that Releasing Me Today has a purpose that’s extremely bigger than my simple idea of it ever could have been. 
It’s truly been a releasing moment for me as well.
Thank you for the congrats on both the series and the book commitment. I’m excited about taking the book in the direction that I’m taking it now. At first, I wanted to put my story on my website; but then my gut feeling told me to reconsider that idea. Since I’m trying to get better at listening to my gut or intuition, I figured I’d start with getting the book finished and working on getting the work published; which happened to be my wish from the beginning anyways.
I wish you the best as well on your journey! I’m excited to hear that you will be taking the steps, too! That’s awesome, Chica! You are such a talented writer, so I know that it’s going to be absolutely phenomenal! I’m looking forward to following your journey as well, if and when you make it available on your blog. If not, definitely keep me posted by email! I’d love to hear where you are in the process. It’ll also be motivation and inspiration to me, something we can do for one another. It doesn’t have to be often, but every now and then. I think it would help us both in the aspect of accountability.
Speaking of accountability, I think it would be an awesome exercise for you and Roy to incorporate accountability concerning one another’s goals. If it does for the both of you what it’s done for Tim and I, then it’s sure to draw the two of you even closer together.
And we both know that’s always a “+”. 
Just yesterday I was telling him of some ideas that I had been playing around with on a second book, and he had to remind me to focus on the this one, first. 
Too funny. I know that he’s right, but I seriously can’t help it. I am glad however that I have someone in my life to tell me though; whatever it is I need to know. 
I’m glad that you got the chance to check out the series, enjoyed what you read, and shared your feedback about it, my friend. It means so very much to me coming from you. You’ve totally made my Sunday afternoon! For that I thank you as well. Wishing you the best!
Deeone,
I can only speak for myself (even though I’m sure others feel the same) when I say, as a human being, It makes me so happy that you’re sharing your story with all of us.
You don’t pretend to be perfect and you own up to your imperfections; we should all do more of that. You’re truly motivated in helping others and that’s so refreshing.
Now to touch on your post (specifically #4):
I 100% agree with the notion that where you’re at in life is on temporary. The sad reality is that many people don’t believe that.
We have more control over our lives than many people think. Once you’re able to wrap your head around that, the whole world opens up.
It’s all about the mindset. Master your mind and opportunity comes knocking. Now, that’s easier said than done, but no great reward is easy.
Stay motivated!
~Jeremy
Good evening, Jeremy!
Brother, thank you for the motivation and inspiration that’s filled throughout your feedback! It’s greatly appreciated.
I used to be afraid, believe it or not, that if I tell my story, I couldn’t share everything that’s included in it; I thought someone may get the impression that I was thinking that I was better or something for doing so. The truth of the matter is I know more now than ever, that I have a story to tell. One that I also believe someone will be able to benefit from. I’ve reached a peace of mind within myself and with myself to know that the Maker of all things gave me my story and experiences to tell. I believe this with all my heart, because He also gave me the necessary tools to share the story.
It took me a minute to see it, but I can truly say that it’s clearer than the most sunniest of days. I’m simply glad that there are inspiring people, such as yourself, that get me and my story. That’s truly a blessing. I’m grateful for that most of all.
My desire to come most from this blog is for it to be a help to someone in need; that it changes their mindsets and mentalities that may have been formed by traditions and learned beliefs. It’s how I formed the ones that I had about myself and the life that I was living. Things weren’t changing for me, and I knew that there was a change that was needed.
The change that was needed the most was definitely in me. I had to rethink my approach to my world and my life. Like you said, it had to start in my mind. That change in my thoughts begin to change other aspects in my life. It was almost like a domino effect. The chips are yet falling, Jeremy.
This showed me that I have a lot of control over what comes and goes in my life. You’re right, a lot of people aren’t fully aware of what they are capable of; if they were wise they’d look for the answers. They’re certainly available to us all, that’s for sure.
I get more control every single day.
Thanks for sharing that awesomeness man! I truly appreciate you and everything you bring to the Release.
All the best to you, my friend.