The past is a very powerful place. It is in the past that the person we see daily in the mirror has been created. All of our ideas, views, opinions, and mindsets, whether positive or negative have been shaped and molded by our past. Well, on today I encourage us all to build a bridge and get over those negative and hurtful things of the past.
If the experience was a good one, we cling to them, treasuring the memories they produced and applying what we learn from them to our daily lives. So it’s only natural that we do the same in the instances where the experience was negative or hurtful to us as well.
The problem with the latter though is that some of the negative experiences we have had have caused us as individuals to have a negative attitude as well. We often fail to take into consideration just how much of an impression the past has had on our present lives.
If hurtful, past experiences has a tendency of causing us to become not only negative, but bitter, mean, callous, and wrecked individuals, we then gladly build invisible walls to protect ourselves from ever feeling that type of hurt or pain again.
There is a Sir Isaac Newton Quote that inspires us to take another approach to building walls of protection from our past hurts. Instead of building those invisible walls, we should often take into consideration tearing those walls down, and using the “material of our past” to build bridges and getting over those past hurts altogether.
“We build too many walls and not enough bridges.” Isaac Newton
It’s so easy to hold onto the injustices that other’s have caused or that we think they may have caused, keeping that hurt in the back of our mind for “future references.”
Future references rarely ever come. Each experience is new, just like each new individual that we allow into our lives is different and new as well. There is simply no way an individual can apply the same scenario or experiences of their past to a different instance in their present or future lives. It simply isn’t going to work. Sure, we can learn from our past experiences and use it to help us, but holding on just for the sake of holding it would be ludicrous and harmful to a person’s health and well-being.
So here I have outlined Five ways to build a bridge and get over it. Do these and take back the life you have always dreamed of having, but may have been afraid to live.
Five Ways to Build a Bridge and Get Over Past Hurts
- Acknowledgment that the instance of the past actually happened is the first step.
- Realization that the instance is over. The hurt is a part of your past for a reason, and guess what? Look around you… you made it through it. And it’s OK to move on.
- Give forgiveness to all parties involved, especially too yourself. However, forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean that things will go back to normal with those involved, that will take time and/or counseling. I definitely recommend the latter of the two, but that I don’t in any way, shape, or form, profess to be. I do know that if you relinquish any and all the negative feelings you have towards those that have caused you personal hurt or anguish, you ultimately are freeing yourself.
- Daily allowance for the occurrence to become a building block instead of a stumbling block. Use the past as a tool towards building a more solid foundation towards your own future.
- Start your life over from this point on, and surround yourself with people and things (self-help books, positive T.V. programs, and by subscribing to websites such as “Releasing Me Today”) that promote your own personal growth and development.
It’s best to start building your own bridge to getting over the hurts of the past today. Putting it off until tomorrow has been proven to be detrimental. I wish you the best in building your bridge and in releasing the hurts of yesterday.
All the best to you! :)
As always, your comments and feedback are most certainly welcomed! I’d love to hear what you think and how you feel about building a bridge and getting over the past.